There are always other ways in letting people know how you feel without hurting their feeling, dont you think so?
2007-12-28 23:23:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, For those who don't agree an overused phrase covers it perfectly "It's not always about you"
Being tactful is NOT the same as being dishonest. Being very direct is actually taking the lazy way out. If someone asks if something makes them look good, you don't say "No it looks awful" (even if you think it does) you say something like "It's ok, but I think you look way better in (name something you know looks good on them)".
It takes a little more effort to be tactful and supportive, but it makes YOU a better person too.
2007-12-28 23:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Linda K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My very blunt manner has both encouraged friendship and pushed people away...
In cases where my friends have "Gotten used to me" they have learned to come to me as a sounding board because I am more then willing to argue both sides with them until they come to their own conclusions...
My common phrase with my friends has always been:
"I just need to say this now so that whatever happens I will know that I said my peace on the subject!"
And I tell them how I fell about the decision or situation and then I let them choose their own path...
Like when my friend (female) wanted to join the ARMY. I told her that she had done her research but I thought it was a really bad idea... That I would support her in whatever choice she made but I think you should go with another branch of the miliatry.
Less then a year later she got out with an Honerable Discharg using her husband's medical problems as the reason.
It worked out just like I thought it would but I had said my peace and supported her throughout her hardship.
She appreciated my honesty and took what I said into concideration before making her decsion and didn't get mad when I told her I thought it was a stupid idea.
As long as you only have the person's best intrests at heart I don't understand why you should sugar coat anything...
$#!t happens and putting a crunchy-candy-shell over a nugget of $#it does no one any good.
A few seconds of embarisment might save a person future problems...
Honesty is what is important and if your self esteem isn't high enough to accept that then it isn't really my problem.
2007-12-28 23:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It goes from situation to situation.
If the person is known to me and is some sort of kith or kin then I might use such words at the very end if the person fails to understand the things at all, I repeat, at all, even if it hurts, the person must know the reality & act accordingly for his/her own betterment.
If a stranger is doing which might ruin him or her or the society and clearly fails to understand that it might be destructive, then yes, I might speak in clear words even if that hurts.
However, if the stranger is not that hurting to him or her self then I will stay euphemistic.
2007-12-30 02:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Habib 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 12:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by brandl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person and what the offense, is to be honest. I think in general, its a good idea not to intentionally try and hurt people's feelings if you value the person.
2007-12-29 13:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I filter the words - it is not what you say, but how you say it. I would not intentionally hurt anyone's feelings.
2007-12-28 23:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, not always. We have to be careful with our choice of words but not at the expense of being honest with them and ourselves.
It depends on the situation really.
2007-12-28 23:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings, so I think I'd try to be very careful about what I say...
2007-12-28 23:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Analyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never deliberately hurt someones feelings because i know how that feels, and unless it is really important , i wouldn't tell them how i feel., if it might hurt their feelings*
2007-12-28 23:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are other ways. Keeping the silent alive ! Even saying things in "a nice way", can turn everything upside down !
2007-12-28 23:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋