26yrs old 2 kids should i have another???

Question

im umming and arring at the moment some friendly advice would be good.

Answer 1

hi, im 26 and got 2 kids as well, i have been thinking this for a while also, it depends on what age your youngest is i think, mine is 2 and a half so it is about the right time for me i reckon. what does your other half think? my friend is only 35 and has got 8 kids so it is for you and your partner to discuss and come to a conclusion-will your youngest feel left out?, are your finances stable? Hope this helps and have a good new year whatever you decide. xx

Answer 2

Lol I am 30 and debating the third child thing. My oldest is 3, nearly 4 and my youngest has just turned one. My thoughts are more about the first 2 years as they are usually the hardest on everyone. I do dearly want a third and would feel regret if I didn't do it. I really don't want to get to 50 and be saying "I wish I'd had a third child" I think it is better to have the third and be certain you are done, than keep wondering.
Just my opinion. Plus even though I was so sick while pregnant I did love feeling the baby grow and move, it is the best thing about pregnancy, then actually having the baby and nurturing it to be an adult. What could be better? (very stressful and at times annoying, but good)

Answer 3

I think if you're umming and arring, then the answer has to be no! Going from 1 child to 2 is hard enough, but putting a third in the equation is something else! When they get to school age they will want to do lots of after-school activities, like swimming lessons, football/ballet classes, martial arts, etc., and you will either end up being a taxi service for them all evening, every evening, or you'll end up denying them the chance to try out new skills/sports, etc. Wait until you have the strong maternal urge to have a third, if at all, but in the meantime spend your valuable time with the two kids you already have.

Good Luck!

ADDITIONAL INFO: Deciding whether to have another child has nothing to do with you being young enough to have one, it's about whether you can cope with another without compromising the care you give to your other two! Talk things through with your partner and if he's undecided as well, then wait until you've both really thought through the pros as well as the cons!

Answer 4

I'm 25 having baby number 3 (will be 26 when its born). Wasn't planning on having another baby as the two we have are hard enough as it is but this one obviously decided it wanted to be here no matter what! I can't believe how much more tired I am already and how much of a toll the pregnancy is taking and I'm only 12 weeks! However another baby in the house will be lovely and a blessing.... but expensive!
Think carefully about the long term financial position another child will put you in and what you're two children will miss out on when there is a third to consider.

best of luck and do what is right for your family

Answer 5

Deep down you already know the answer to this.

Here are some questions to ask yourself

Can you financially afford it?
Are you in a solid relationship?
When your kids get older you will have a bit more freedom for yourself and your hubby - are you willing to bump this up another 6-8 years?
Does your family feel incomplete?

Your answers to these questions may make things a little clearer.

Good luck
Jade

Answer 6

I'm nearly 24 and going through the same thing.
My daughters are 5 and 2 and I'm so broody you wouldn't believe! But my partner isn't so sure.
If you and your partner both want another child, then go for it. If your other children are old enough, then ask their opinion too.

Good luck and happy baby making
xxx

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If you and your boyfriend want one, definately!
You're still young so nnow would be a good time to have one as you don't really want to wait until you're too old!
A young mum is better than an old one I think!

Answer 9

Im 29 and on baby no3, I would definately recommend you have another baby..........if you want to and if you can afford to, your young enough and its nice to get it out of the way before your 30 so you can enjoy yourself

Answer 10

well put it this way you are still young why not have another it could make your family complete and if you can afford another child but bare in mind its up to u nobody else good luck.