Am I Being Too Sensitive About This?

Question

I hate when people call me "bud" and especially when guys say it. It makes me sound like a kid or something.

Answer 1

No, I don't think you're too sensitive about it. I hate it when someone calls me by a nickname that is common for my first name. If it is only one person calling you this then the next time he does it you can say very simply, "I really don't like to be called that, would you please call me by my correct name?" If there is more than one person who does this then try to come back with something like "Yeah kid, what's up?" Maybe they will catch on. If not you'll have to gently tell them that calling you this has the same effect on you that fingernails on a blackboard does so they will understand you are serious about it and don't like it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Oh yes! I foolishly took a job with a small company that employed many family members. One young punk son persisted in calling me Bud. I grew to hate him. Then I began to hate the father and owner for having such cocky behavior. I didn't stay long. But looking back, I realize the punk had no idea. Just a young punk who thought he was hip and stylish when he really had no idea. I could have handled it better. But I still think that is just so irritating and phoney. So when somebody says it to you, realize they are very shallow and trying to demonstrate they are something they are not. Realize you are listening to a shallow sort of person who is clueless. It is their attempt to act like a big boy. Trying to act like a man. Kinda sad, really. Play naive and ask what is a "Bud?" Tell them it means something very bad in your neighborhood or hometown. etc. outwit the jerk. if they cannot stop it, and you cannot bear it, find something else.

Answer 3

The term "bud" can sound diminutizing, but I think it is generally used in a friendly way. Also many people use the generic "man." (Hey, man, watch out for the lamp post! D'you see the game, man?") But I think that is in lieu of knowing a name mostly.

Someone said we Americans use peoples' names in direct address more than other people do: "Carl, this is John. John works in shipping." "Hello, John. I'm Carl. "Hi, Carl." John, did you see the game last night." "No, Carl, it was my wife's birthday and we went out." "Too bad, John, it was a great game." And so forth.

Answer 4

Yun, I am wondering if you are being too sensitive.

I'm 72 and I have heard this expression all my life.

I think when someone calls you "bud", they are trying to show you respect, so to speak.

They could just plain call you Yun or Hey you, but they are going out of their way to call you bud.

Now if they were to say "Boy", then they are definitely talking down to you.

My husband uses that expression on people who he feels are close to him or for sure someone he knows well.

You wouldn't call a stranger, Bud.

I hope I have made you feel better.

Answer 5

Hmm.. I think you're just being sensitive about it. When people call me "bud" or "buddy" feel like I'm close to them or something along the lines of that. =]

Answer 6

people think you kid this thought has made place in your mind i dont know what is the reason behind this . but bud means buddy, partner and somebody calls you a partner if he thinks you a kid he is kid along with you as he is your partner.try to be positive.

Answer 7

Take it as a compliment! If people don't like you, they would certainly not call you that way! And it doesn't sound childish at all to me! Be more confident!!!

Answer 8

i know how you feel except over here it's 'mate' not 'bud'. just grit your teeth and ignore it.

Answer 9

yeah maybe a little.would you like to be called pal. friend .or

Answer 10

not at all tell em how u feel