When where you ready for the next baby?

Question

I gave birth 3 months ago. When my baby was born I actually was thinking that she would be an only child... not because of the pain - that wasn't too bad (even without meds), but because it kind of scares me what could have gone really bad during this delivery. Birth didn't go smooth at all I had to be induced and it took 3 days for that to work, after delivery I had heavy bleeding which they had a hard time stopping, at some point my contractions just stopped in the middle of pushing stage and Dr told me that if I didn't push now baby could suffocate. I know compared to others it is nothing, but the thought of what could have gone wrong still scares me alot. Well, we are all healthy and I recovered really quick. As I am not that young anymore (early 30s) I have the feeling that if we should have more than 1 then we need to have it rather soon. When were you ready to have another baby? And is it true that second and subsequent births go smoother?

Answer 1

I have been wanting number 2 since my daughter was 11 months old (she is now 22 months) but I have only been READY to try for another one for the last two months. I had severe post natal depression after having my daughter and (stupidly) I didn't seek help until she was a year old. I am only 22 though so I have a long time left to have babies, we have only just started trying for number 2 :) Good Luck with your decision, if everything is going well and you are handling it fine then I say go for it

Answer 2

I'm a 24 yr old mother of a 4 yr old and a 16 month old. I also had a very traumatic delivery with my first. She was 10.5 pds. got her shoulders stuck in birth canal. The doctor had to shove his arm up under her and pull her out otherwise she would have suffocated. They had a hard time stopping the heavy bleeding. And she spent 5 days in the NICU with a sprained shoulder and broken rib..from being forced out..so yeah..I was traumatized and did not want anymore babies. Not cause of what I went through but because I couldn't stand to have another baby go through that ever again. So when surprise baby #2 came along, from the vey beginning both the doctors and I agreed that a c-section would be safer. And yup..Everything went smooth.

Answer 3

I has a 6 year age gap between my first and second baby, which was quite hard because she was very jealous of her new brother, i then caught for my second son when my first son was 9 months old, he came 6 weeks prem, so there is 16 months between those two, i did find it quite challenging with 2 babies in the house, i sometimes said it would have been easier if they where twins, but i wouldn't change it for the world, they are very close to each other, my fourth baby is now 3 so there is a 3 1/2 year age gap between my last two, which i found great because the baby was born just after my third child started nursery, each woman is different, it's when you feel physically and emotionally strong enough for another baby, my second pregnancy was a lot easier than my first, but again each woman is different, good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 4

I'm just now ready for my second baby. My son is 18 months old. I didn't have the easiest time giving birth, either, but I feel more prepared this time around. I know what not to do (in my case that was inducing). Good luck to both of us!

Answer 5

I was ready to have my second after my first weaned (around 10 months), but had to wait until my husband came home from deployment (around her first birthday). Now with my second child, I have on again, off again feelings of wanting another one! He is 20 months, and this started around 16 months or so. My second labor was faster, but had more complications and son had to be rushed away from me the second he came out, by 3 pediatricians waiting on the sidelines. In generalization, subsequent births are smoother, but like each pregnancy, each labor is its own!!

Answer 6

Each delivery is there own. As far as being ready for the second baby you will know when the time is right for you to be ready for that second child. People are having children in there early 40's now and your risk is lower with your second later in life vs having a first later in life.

Answer 7

I started to feel the itch when my girl was about 15 months I think. We got prego when she was 16 months. We had planned to start trying around then because we wanted them to be close together, so it was good timing.
My body has dealt with this second pregnancy better than it did with the first. I experienced nothing like you did, but I did have a LOT of spotting the first month of my pregnancy and got grounded from sex for a while from the doc. But then by around the 4th month sex was too painful for me anyway because my body was so sensitive.

Answer 8

Oh honey, I certainly have 2 boys--2 a million/2 years previous and 14 months previous, and that i nevertheless do no longer think of i'm waiting for my 14 month previous. LOL :) it must be too quickly for you. perfect now, you nevertheless have some residual hormones from being pregnant left over and floating around. (between the reason a great style of girls human beings as we communicate p.c. yet another infant after giving start.) they gained't disappear out of your physique thoroughly till approximately 6 months submit-partum. that's relatively as much as you. once you're satisfied with one, sturdy! in case you think of you p.c. one or 2 greater, sturdy! in simple terms keep in mind that in simple terms with the aid of fact this infant you have now's so candy and nicely behaved and wonderful--wait till he starts teething, and gets his first chilly and refuses to/can not sleep with the aid of fact he feels so crummy, or develops his temper and starts having fits with the aid of fact he can not have a toy from the toy shop or some candy. it must be that he would be an angel from day one to the final day of his existence. does no longer advise your next little ones would be like this. My youthful son is the main suitable opposite of his brother. i will permit you be attentive to now...if he have been born first, my husband and that i could probably have been content fabric at having an in elementary terms newborn. :) of direction i like him dearly--that's a given, yet he's SO clingy and fussy and needy. His older brother, on the different hand, grew to become right into a dream as an infant. he's been Mr. Independence almost from day one.

Answer 9

My son is 10, my daughter is almost 3 months and We already want another. :) But we are waiting until she is at least 6 months old. My brother and I are 15 months apart to the day. Good luck!

Answer 10

I am currently pregnant with my second child. My son is 21 months, we decided over the summer to have another baby because we want our kids to be close in age. If you and your family are ready for another then go have one!