I am straight but i met this girl on January 4th, 2007. We became Best Friends and though we went through some rough patches we got through them. Over the year I have begun to think of her as more than a friend though.
The feelings I have for her are different than what I have had for anybody else I have ever known. I would do anything for her. I love her with everything i have, but not sexually. I dont think of her as "hot". I mean I think she is really pretty but Ive never even thought about kissing her or anything like that. All I have ever wanted to do was protect her and give her the world.
I was talking to her boyfriend about this (I know right? Hes such a cool guy!) and his opinion was I DO love her...but the reason Im questioning my sexuality (Straight, gay, or bi) is because thats the only word I have for it. About a month ago I told her we couldnt be friends anymore because I knew she was uncomfortable with the situation but every day since then I have thought about her
2007-12-28 18:01:17 · 16 answers · asked by realies_girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you love her as a family member. its just a bond that you developed with her. it doenst mean that your bi or gay. it just means that your human, and you care for your bestfriend. im like that with my bestfriend, (its a guy) and im not gay or bi in any way. (love the ladies.) i think it just means that you care. i also think that you should try to be friends again. cause friends that you have that much in common with and went through that much with are hard to come by.
hope i helped.
2007-12-28 18:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Will Smith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi realies_girl! As what your describing, love is different then sex. it is common to simply like her because such an interesting and unique person and you know her so well! My suggestion is make up with her and be her friend, and for the reason just tell her you needed some time to think if you want to keep it a secret. But some say is best to tell the truth.
2007-12-28 18:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with first answer. Maybe you remember the Seinfeld episode, when George had a "non-sexual male crush" on cool Tony. This is pretty unusual with men, though not unheard of (especially when sharing dangerous experiences), but is certainly not in any way bisexual or homosexual. If there is no physical component, and no physical sexual *attraction*, then it is a non-sexual relationship, period (and good for you for finding such a profound and morally sound same-sex relationship).
Jim, http://www.jimpettis.com/wheel/
2007-12-28 18:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care about her like a sister but now the situation is uncomfortable. You might need to let her know that you don't think of her grossly it's just that you guys were so close and you cared about her so much you didn't know if you were bi but now you realize that it's much more like the sister you never had that you guys watch each other's backs.
2007-12-28 18:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a friend/family love. Youre still straight. I love my two best girlfriends, would give everything to keep them safe, and am fully attracted to men. You were just building a healthy friendship where you respected and loved the other person.
2007-12-28 18:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by kitty10185 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just a bit confused right now. It might be better to concentrate on other friendships just until you figure it out for yourself. Then, later, after you're clearer about things, you could begin spending time with her again. Don't get too worked up about this - time and growth will take care of it.
2007-12-28 18:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't daydreamed about her sexually then you are not bi. You will run across people from time to time that you just can't help but love. Loving someone does not mean that you want to be with them sexually.
2007-12-28 18:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whos to say what normal is? normal can be defined differently by diffferent ppl. when it comes to are u straight, gay, or bi...it really depends have you ever had feelings for someone of the same gender before or has it just been her? it sounds like you do love her. don't label yourself, just call it being in love with someone
2007-12-28 18:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by purplerose601 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal
2007-12-28 18:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Brianna™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been sexually attracted to the same sex, can you imagine yourself "being" with girl? If no your not. You just cared deeply for your friend. Regardless of what your sexuality is you should never be embarrassed or ashamed of who you are.
2007-12-28 18:21:31 · answer #10 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋