Would you experience difficulty telling someone that you're not feeling okay if that's actually the case?

Question

When I think about this question I am doubtful that confiding on another person would be the best idea. That's something I tried and still do sometimes. The truth is that people can be coldhearted but they wont show that side of themselves in the beginning. Anyway my brain is programmed to respond by saying something like "I'm fine" or "I just want to be alone". Well I'm not sure how else it can be handled. The last thing I want to do is annoy someone.

Would you be comfortable being honest about your feelings and actually asking for comfort?

Answer 1

The cold hard truth is that when MOST people ask you how you are or how you feel....they don't want to know! It is just a figure of speech

So save their time and yours and say, " Fine thank you/" and continue to do what you were doing. They don't care! If you tell them it WILL annoy them and upset you, because they don't care. Save your feelings for your intimate friends.

Answer 2

I wouldn't just tell anyone. I would look for someone whom I could have a measure of trust in that they would react and respond to my admission responsibly.

One of the aspects of not feeling well is that the animal instinct of self-preservation works behind the scenes. A wounded animal doesn't let other animals know that it is hurt because then it could become a prey or a cast off from the group.

That's how animals react. That isn't how human beings should react. I would find a Pastor or a Counselor or a Doctor and go to them because by the nature of their work they are trained to do the right thing when someone who "isn't feeling okay" comes to them.

At the very least I would talk to a mature Christian friend who had a track record of helping people out when they were down.

Above all, I would be praying and asking God to help me out and by faith I would look to see how He was going to do it. Usually God works through members of the body of Christ (the church) but if you keep your self in isolation then it is unlikely that you are going to access His provision for what ails you.

Answer 3

I don't ever trust random people with my problems. If I need to honestly get my feelings out and need comfort, I talk to someone I trust such as trusted friends or family members. You can't always trust random people and acquaintances to keep what you tell them private.

When you say "I'm fine" and don't mean it, the people that really care about you (friends and family) are going to see through that and will most likely tell you to be honest with them. That has always been my experience.

Answer 4

This really depends upon ones relationship with another, does it not? With my wife I am usually quite open and honest with what I am experiencing... but not always. Sometimes what I am experiencing has nothing to do with her, and thus, why should I bother her with it?

The more one knows of the concept of Karma, the more one realizes that ultimately everything one experiences is for oneself... alone. That we share this plane with others is a given, and thus, it is hard to ignore others entirely. But to the degree one can, it is usually easier to not confide in others than to do so.

With ones family one owes it to them to try and emphatically discover what is going on with a family member and offer ones understanding of what the other is having to go through. But that's my family... who have been "trained" to expect this.

Peace

Answer 5

There are only two or maybe three people I know who I might share my true feelings with and even then I'm not sure if I would. I feel the same as you about this - I don't want to burden anyone else.

Answer 6

I find it difficult telling someone I am not feeling ok. I'm always fine if someone asks. Though I believe we should be more honest about our state. I've just built some high walls around me and it's very difficult to take them back down when someone asks.

Answer 7

With certain people I can tell them how I really feel, but for the most part I always answer questions like "How are you?" with "not bad" because nobody wants to hear "I'd like to jump in front of a train now."

Answer 8

Well ... it happens all the time to me too..I don`t want to express or show what I feel in order not to destroy the surrounding festive mood when I`m with everybody. Today`s society is so stressful , that nobody wants to see somebody upset or annoys them especially when you are in social events.　
Sometimes in order to gain confident or trust, with somebody , it is necessary to ask advice , or show your inner self .

Answer 9

I didn't go far enough to read any replies, but I am exactly like YOU!! I'm looking forward to your replies.

I'm exactly the same, we all have problems.....and no one REALLY cares, you know. Everyone is really just wrapped up in thier own drama, you know. So why bother? I could expand....again; why bother

Answer 10

No. I am a lot like you.