My boyfriend and I, both virgins until recently, like to go at it. However, it is so easy for him to get to an orgasm- I haven't been able to hit one yet. I feel like there's something wrong with me; although, I have heard that it is much, much harder for a female to get there. So naturally, I have a ton of questions, such as how to get there, what my boyfriend can do for me, when to do it, etc. I feel I'm missing out on some crucial information- can someone fill me in?
2007-12-28 15:26:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
You need a vibrator. That's the only way I was able to get there. But everyone's different. Females have to imagine things...it's more of a mental kind of thing..because we are emotional beings...males on the other hand feel it and it's over with.
Another way would be for him to massage your clitoris..softly doing it too hard hurts. That's were and how female's orgasm. As for doing it during intercourse...it's kind of tough. Try having him touch your g-spot either w/ his penis or by fingering. It's within an in the vagina. Everyone's is positioned differently....try a circular motion...you'll know when he touches it...it feels kind of squishy.
Other than that...the vibrator is the only way to go..and place it on the clitoris...and you'll orgasm...good luck!!
2007-12-28 15:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by tashasenior2005 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The crucial information you are probably missing is that it takes more than penetration for a woman to have an orgasm. Almost all women require clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. Either manually, orally, or by placing yourself where your clitoris is rubbing against your lover while you are "going at it" will do the trick. It may take a little longer for women to have an orgasm sometimes, but that is definitely not always the case. You just have to know what feels good. :)
2007-12-28 15:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by HelpIzOnTWay 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are obviously young. Women dont hit their sexual peak for several years. It's also alot easier for men to orgasm than women. First, there are different types of orgasm. What you want is the big one, but there are smaller, just as satisfying ones you may be able to have. But I had been having sex for a few years before I had my first. Just be patient. If you stress over it, it will never happen.
2007-12-28 15:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
have him do you from behind doggy style! that will hit your G-spot witch is behind your pubic bone if he stimulate this your have a very intense orgasm and if you squirt dont be surprised. or you can do the reverse cow girl position that will make you have intense orgasm as well while he is doing doggy style have him rob on your clit at the same time ok. and try oral try new things! experimenting is the key! and aslo have him lick your clit and with his lips tell him to hummm that will feel like a human vibrator it will feel really good to you!
2007-12-28 15:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need clit stimulation,how you get it is up to you. a vibrator, touching, oral, are the best. This with rubbing the g-spot will help. (g-spot is inside & up if he inserts a finger upwards & feels around with you directing he'll find it). its hard to do this while being oral but very possible, so just demand it. Your age shouldn't matter at all, just his experence, & since both of you are new at this take your time.
2007-12-28 16:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Businessman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i dont think that nothing is wrong with you i have the same prob.. i never have an orgasm when my hubby,, and i go at it soo.. your not alone.. :)
2007-12-28 15:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by foxxy_lady4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could get your bf to lick your cliterous, thatll feel good
2007-12-28 15:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋