Hubby and I have been at it for almost 2 years now. I'm finding that I get so depressed every time my period comes and that I don't enjoy sex as much as I used since it all seems to big one big waste of time. I love my husband to death, but I don't know how to lift my spirits enough to just enjoy him again. I'm waiting for my period to come this month so I can start charting everything (Just got Taking Charge of Your Fertility, so I know all about the cervical position and mucous, etc.) My plan is to chart for a good 3 months before going to the doctor, I figure this way at least I can say 'look' I'm not ovulating or there's no thermal shift or whatever. Hubby has a child from another relationship, so I'm fairly certain the problem lies with me. I'm just so terrified to find out that there could be something seriously wrong and I won't be able to have a child. How are you all handling the stress? Any ideas or tips for me? Best of Luck to all of you and thanks for your answers!
2007-12-28 15:11:15 · 11 answers · asked by jpiglet86 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
TTC #1 for over a year. On my 3rd month of clomid. I am in my 2ww. It is a long wait. I am usually depressed a day or 2 after my AF starts but horomones don't help either. Then its time to try again. I try to make it fun and not tell my husband when its time for me to ovulate. It helps keep him from feeling like sex is just about making a baby. I understand the thing about being afraid of finding out if there is something wrong but me wanting a baby kind of took charge and said we gotta find out to help this happen. Good luck and lots of baby dust!!
2007-12-28 21:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by rclowdis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We've been trying to conceive for 7 months. I've been charting the whole time, I've used OPKs, and for the last three months I've been using the fertility monitor...so I know I'm ovulating. We just started the testing process (I'm over 35, so we don't have to wait as long), and I'm actually excited about it. It makes me feel like I'm doing something about it instead of just sitting around wondering and feeling sad. So often people get tested and find out there's something minor wrong and they get pregnant with some minor fixes. If you haven't been charting, you could just be completely off on your timing, or it could just be something really simple. I think there's more stress in not knowing than there is in doing everything you can. Being a parent takes strength and endurance...I get that starts now :)
2007-12-28 15:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Julie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been trying for 5 months now and I know thats not very long but I am right with you when you so you get so depressed when you period comes! Every month during my tww I think I'm pregnant and I even imagine symptoms. It took my husband and I about a year to conceive our first child. It was very hard then and its even harder now. I know how wonderful a baby can be and I want to give my son a brother or sister and its just making this difficult. Hang in there and know that once you relax it will happen! I wish you lots of luck!
2007-12-28 15:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by prncsssk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the being terrified of finding out something could be causing you not to have a baby. My husband and I have been TTC for almost four years. My family keeps telling me to get tested, but I don't want to, because I don't want to lose that little bit of hope I have.
I also understand getting depressed around the time your period is due. My husband is quite the optimist, and he always tries to cheer me up, and a lot of times I try not to let it show, but times like now (almost 3 months late and negative tests) nothing is working. I also understand how sex isn't enjoyable anymore.
As far as tips, just keep your hope and faith that all things are possible. Don't lose hope. That is the ONLY thing that keeps me going as far as TTC is concerned.
Good luck.
2007-12-28 15:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been TTC for 2 months now...I know how frustrated and disappointed I feel when I wind up getting my period when I've sworn that I was pregnant thanks to my mind tricking my body into believing it.
I'm not speaking from personal experience here, but from things I've read about TTC. Maybe you're stressing yourself out too much with the "logistics" of getting pregnant. You say you're not enjoying sex anymore and that it just feels like a waste of time...I've heard that couples who have stressed over getting pregnant for too long and it not happening. However, as soon as they decide to quit stressing about it, they get pregnant. I wonder if it's possible that you're stressing yourself out so much that you're not conceiving.
Also, I've read that if you've not gotten pregnant after a year of trying, it's time to see a fertility specialist. Before going that route, maybe you should talk to your regular doctor/gynecologist about your concerns. Maybe he/she would have some advice for you or suggest that the two of you see a fertility specialist.
Good luck and hope this helps.
2007-12-28 15:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Angelia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your bad news! I am sure you are freaking out right now. I would take it slow with the divorce, etc. So that you do things with a level head and not out of anger. You should be happy that you dont have a baby with this buger! Now you can move on to someone with good sperm and that is an honest man. I cant believe this guy! What a total loser. I am glad you didnt have to go through all the pain of IVF for him. I cant help but wonder if the low sperm count made him feel inferior so he started to go to other woman for attention to build himself up or what! I am praying for you that things will go your way and only the best will happen. :(
2016-04-01 23:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you check your cervical mucus? This is a absolute great way to check for ovulation. This is how I conceived my 2 children in under 5 months. The BBT wasn't working so I looked to my body for the big clues. Hope this helps, and much baby dust to you!
2007-12-28 15:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been ttc for 3 months now, and I gave up on the OPT and stuff I just have sex on my most fertile days that's it now as Its costly and I'm not so stressed out.
2007-12-28 15:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Don't worry, I'll happen when you least expect it" I guess your tire of hearing that, just have hope and carry faith where ever you go, I have pcos and am not ovulating at all, I have been ttc#1 for 5 years now
2007-12-29 09:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner and i have been trying for 3 years now,,and im now on omega x to boost the sperm up and if you havent seen a doctor yet,,i would recomend it asap..
2007-12-28 16:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by davie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋