he 18 and hes moving outta colorado to go live with his dad for our 12th grade year and it sucks @$$ but stuff happens. he will be gone for who knows how long but i luv him so much that i can't even think about dropping him for someone else.
What would you do if this happened to you?? Based on your own personal choice
2007-12-28 14:38:14 · 41 answers · asked by Avangelis 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
spelling isn't my concern now but thanks
2007-12-28 14:44:57 · update #1
i will try to make it work and we'll see what happens.
2007-12-28 14:45:44 · update #2
i really do appreciate everyones answers
2007-12-28 14:48:56 · update #3
I would see if it could work.
From experience, I believe the two of you would grow apart.
But, I have seen some great things from two people who really want things to work.
Give it your effort.
At least then you will be able to say you tried.
2007-12-28 14:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by vhesponage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This HAS happened to me. When I was 15 my boyfriend's family moved away. We never broke up. We've been together nearly 3 years now. I love him so much and I wouldn't have ended our relationship even if he was living on the moon, seriously.
I think you should continue your relationship if that's what you both want. Where do you see your relationship in 5 years time? 10 years? Ask him the same question. Expect it to be VERY hard. I've been long distance for 2 and a half years but i'm 49 days I'm moving in with him. Things have been really hard but worth it.
Good luck and don't let go of it if it's what you both want!
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2007-12-28 14:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion would be to just deal with the fact that he is leaving. Ok, now that is over, (and hopefully you are still together) ok, now just look on all the bright sides, you guys can learn to be a little self dependent, but you guys can get to plan cute little trips and stuff to see each other! It would be really fun. Plus, the time when you guys do see each other woiuld be more cherished than it is now, it would be more memmorable too, and when you look back on it by the time you graduate, you guys will be stronger as yourselves, and as a couple. Trust me, once he moves and after about a week or two, you guys will get used to it a bit. Just keep looking on the bright side. And here are some fun things that my and my bf do.
When he went to college, these are some of the fun things we did.
-Put little notes in his car when he isnt there, like, I love you, By the time you find this, I am missing you and I am thinking of you. Andcute things like that
-We plan to go to expensive resteraunts so its a romantic evening, then the next day we do something adventurous and dangerous. It gets fun and adds memories, plus it gives him a chance to see that you can still have fun even though the depressing fact that you guys wont see each other for liike another month or somehting. lol
I hope this helped.
-Nikkie
2007-12-28 14:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by williedierolf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to make it work, but keep in the back of your mind at all times that not very many long distance relationships acually work out. Be careful and protect your heart, and think about how long this relationship has lasted. Have you been together for long? If so, then it's ABSOLUTELY worth a shot. Are you in love enough to trust him not to cheat? Do you love him enough to safe your sexual frustrations and not cheat? If you both have jobs, and believe that you can make time for each other during Spring Break or other time off school and visit, it might be worth a shot. Just remember, if you love him, do it. You aren't too young, I've been with my hubby since 11th Grade. Good things can happen, and I would make the effort if you feel it's something worth while.
2007-12-28 14:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Preggers Again! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I dated for a year while I was in high school. I was a sophomore and he was a senior. After that year that we dated he left for 2 years (he was an LDS missionary). We wrote letters to each other, and I dated a little bit while he was gone (since missionaries aren't allowed to date). We got married about 5 months after he got home.
So, now my advice. If you can't even think about dropping him for someone else, don't. Know though, that you will probably miss out on some really good dating experiences and some really good friendships by not dating others. Either way, you're young, and you have lots of life left to date other people. Good luck.
2007-12-28 14:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by rainwriterm 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sucks!! I had a guy take an out of state job because "there was nothing here" for him. We tried to stay together, but he didn't call me for two weeks and then all he talked about was how much fun he was having. We broke up.
A few years later, he came back and we bumped into each other, started dating, He drove me crazy! We broke up again.
He's happily married with kids and I'm happy in an eight year relationship.
Ya never know how your life will turn out!
2007-12-28 14:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by whatzername? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are young and you have the rest of your life ahead of you. I am not saying that him moving away is a good thing, but that fact that he is. That might be a good thing for you, let him know that you still want to be friends and you will still talk. Long distance does not work very well, especially with people that are still in high school. If you meet someone else, that would be fine.
2007-12-28 14:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will be your opportunity to check out other guys and maybe find another boyfriend.
You are still so very, very young. A boyfriend is not a husband!
You are not married and need to shop around, meet new guys, get to know other guys.
And more importantly, you need to do well in school and prepare yourself for the adult world.
Really, guys aren't fully human until they are out of high school. So don't get so serious about a guy you'll have pretty much forgotten about in twenty years.
2007-12-28 14:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See how it goes at first for awhile and take it one day at a time. That's really all you can do, right? Be faithful, and trust that he will too. If he loves you like you love him you both will be fine. I think smart young people are sticking with good mates rather than jumping around and risking their lives like before by taking risks. So you and he are mature and will call, text, write, email alot and stay in touch and don't worry unless you have to.....
2007-12-28 14:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would move close to you since you don't have a BF...lol.
9 months isn't much but I have to agree longterm relationships are difficult without adding distance. Just take one day at a time and see where life takes you.
2007-12-28 14:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋