parents ...................................?

Question

do you care about relationships kids have with their friends ? why ?

do you judge your children's friends ? do you care about how your child feel's about your judgment of thier freinds

Answer 1

Hi... i'm a parent, but my kids are grown.

I think the answer you might be looking for is here --

I did not choose and reject my kids' friends; however i hoped they used good judgment (sometimes they did not).

When my kids were under 15, I allowed ALL of their friends into my home and over to visit... my kids could usually go to their friends' homes, too; however, sometimes spending the night or excessive time at some people's homes was out of the question and here is why:

One of my younger son's friends had parents who smoked pot openly in front of their minor children. this is "cool" you might say, but i think kids need to wait until they are old enough (over 18) to be around this sort of thing, and to make ADULT choices. So i had to make it for my son -- his friend was very welcome in my home at any time... my son was limited to the time he spent at this friend's however.

My other son had a friend who was terribly abused by the father. He was very angry, mean and had a drinking problem. To be quite frank, i didn't let my son over there at all, unless we were driving over to this boy's house to pick him up to visit my home.

Letting kids just run around and do whatever they want all of the time, could lead to problems -- like drinking and doing drugs, shoplifting and being disrespectful of others. Other kids do not force you, or my kids to drink, steal or do drugs, it's a personal choice.... but, by avoiding people who do these things, a parent can see there is a smaller chance their kids will get into any sort of trouble.

Parents really want the best for their kids... and while we have to give you SOME freedom, we worry about our kids and want only the best social situations for them.

I wasn't a model teen or child, either. I had friends who did things which were not appropriate, and i did them sometimes, too. That doesn't make it right.

I think all parents realize friends are important and those are the people you share most personal things with. It's very important for all kids to have friends...

Another thing -- a child is usually a reflection of his homelife. So, troubled children will usually (not always) have problems at home.

I tried to keep my kids at home with friends. I did not eavesdrop or sit in between them, but i felt more comfortable when i knew where my kids were, especially around friends whose parents didn't have any common sense or good judgment.

take care and i hope you will get good answers here hon.

Answer 2

yes i do care about that as early as now i want my son to have good set of friends, and i would want to meet them all, when we go to the playground together and to the park, his only 2 but his a friendly one that i could say....its important specially if you are a teenagers mom or dad so that you could know where to call or to go when your kids are not yet home and its dark and late in the evening already

Answer 3

my parents ... are hard to describe, but they don't really know my friends since I don't introduce them to any. I never have anyone come over and the only 2 people that ever come over are my 2 closest friends. otherwise, I'm at someone else's house or at the movies/mall

Answer 4

yes i did and i let my sons know how i felt about their friends and told them i cant choose them for them. but i don't have to let them in my house if i don't want to and i didn't.