Does living together before marriage...get you to marriage?

Question

even if you are in love..do guys really think "well why buy the milk when its free"? how can women effectively say "we either get engaged or nothing"?

Answer 1

I don't know, but I don't think two people should live together before marriage. For one you don't have much to look forward to when you do decide to get married. Most guys aren't in a hurry to get married then.

Answer 2

I will never live with a guy before marriage again. I don't feel I made a mistake by doing this before, but now being a little older and wiser, I wouldn't do it. I have had way too many girlfriends that moved in with their guy, and when they started asking for marriage, the guys would give excuses like "I only want to get married once and I want to be sure." None of them ended up getting married, and the guys usually left for some new chick instead.

Anyway, by a guy marrying you before the two of you live together, shows how committed he is to you and the relationship.

As far as giving an ultimatum for an engagement, you need to sit him down and discuss the future. You should not pressure him into an engagement. You should start asking him questions like "where do you see yourself in a year from now, five years from now?" See if you're both on the same page.

Answer 3

I think most people who live together have the intentions of getting married.

I really don't agree with the say, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" Think about it.

Are you telling me a guy is going to commit himself to live with a women, put up with crap and then openly announce he's living with her to friends and family; all for free sex??? Umm, no...

Moving in with someone usually indicates marriage. It's too much of a statement to the world to move in with someone you aren't serious with. No guy would make that commitment, unless there was something there.

I have more of a problem with men that say, "we shouldn't move in unto we are married or engaged" But, then never propose. I mean, he doesn't want to have and engagement or commit to living with you. That's a much bigger indicator of no future together and a lack of committment.

I do think you can ask to be engaged before moving in.

Answer 4

I found that living with my husband first made it easier to live with him when we got married. After a while of living together say to him" either we get engaged or i'm out". Simple and straight to the point.

Answer 5

It is God's will that if people live together they be married. In some states living together means the same as being married and some places if you introduce her as "Mrs" you are considered married.

Answer 6

"how can women effectively say "we either get engaged or nothing"?" Don't move in with him DUH SOME guys do think "why buy the cow when I'm getting the milk for free" If YOU want marriage YOU need to make YOURSELF perfectly clear you won't cohabitate without it.

Answer 7

From what I see, those who live together usually end up breaking up because the guy found a girl who wouldn't live with them. They had to marry them instead, and the girl they were living with goes away hurt and confused.

Answer 8

i have been married, i have lived with someone without being married, too
it doesn't necessarily get you anything either way
engaged isn't even married
if you want to shoot men an ultimatum, you are with the wrong guy...find someone who wants what YOU want...otherwise, even marriage won't solve any of your woes!

Answer 9

I don't really think guys think like that. I just asked my husband and he said no, he didn't think that way. Just tell him we either move to the next step or I'm walking. If you don't move to the next step...walk. I wouldn't waste my time on someone who didn't want to spend the rest of their life with me.

Answer 10

I lived with my husband for 7 years before we got married! (had to check him out first!...lol)