I was diagnosed with placenta previa, which basically I'm at risk of loosing my baby. There's a possabiity that I might get a C-section because I won't be able to have my baby normal. My mother for the past 3 years, goes to Mexico for 3 months and comes back. She has been taking care of my daughter ever since she was 2 months old and currently is 2 years old. My daughter loves my mom and cosiders her like her second mom. So my mom has suggested that I should let my daughter go with her. I don't know what to do because it seems too long. She says that way if I do have a C-section I can recuperate faster, plus my husband only has 1 wk of vacation to help me and after that I'm on my own... so she says with both kids it will be tough and especially if I get the C-section. I don't know what to do....! I afraid that something might happen to her over there.... I would like her to be with me when the new baby comes, but then it will be tough on me with two kids. Some people say I shouldn't ..
2007-12-28 12:49:41 · 12 answers · asked by Maria A 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
personally for me, there was no way I could let my daughter be somewhere I am not for 3 months. That is a lifetime in 2 year's eyes. She would not understand why "mommy" is for away...and with your new baby on the way..she could also see it as.."i'm not wanted anymore..because of the new baby"..Could your mother come to you for those months?..or do you have another relative who could help out nearby if needed? Having a c section is not as bad as what you might feel it is..yes, you will be sore etc..but...you could still move around abit...perhaps get a niece or somoene to help if you really feel you will need that extra help.
3 months is way too long to have your daughter gone from you...even if she does see her grandma as a mom..she is not her real mom.
2007-12-28 12:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's a tricky situation... I'm the mother of two toddlers that are under 5 yrs. and I can say that I would NOT let them go to Mexico for one day let alone 3 months...
Can you mother perhaps postpone her trip until AFTER you have the baby that way she can be with you and help you out? I would be nervous that something may happen to her over there or she might need medical treatment etc... I would take the chance with caring for the children yourself/husband and NOT let your daughter go until she is older to MEXICO...
good luck
2007-12-28 20:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's totally your decision, but if I were you I don't think I'd let her. For three reasons...
1. She is only 2 years old and at that age, ANYTHING could happen...
2. You want her to adjust to the new baby(if your sickness doesn't affect that)
3. It will be tough on you, but that is what raising kids is all about!
3 reasons you could:
1. Your mom HAS been raising her since she was 2 months...
2. Your mom also has experience with kids, too.
3. This could also be easier on you with the new baby!
This is completely MY opinion, it is up to YOU though!!! Like I said, I wouldn't do it, but that's me.....
Good luck! :-)
2007-12-28 20:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia:] 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why on earth has your mother been taking care of your daughter since she was 2 months old? If it doesn't bother you for your mom to have her for almost 2 years, I'm sure it won't bother you to not see her for three months either. But personally I couldn't go an entire day without seeing my girls much less 3 months. But it's your decision.
2007-12-28 21:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by ROBIN T 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Three months is a long time, indeed. On the other hand, you now need to think of you and your new baby so you should rest as much as you can - having your daughter taken care of would be a great help. I don't think anything will happen to her in Mexico since she will be with your mom. If I were you, I would let her go.
2007-12-28 20:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Matahari 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I would have her stay. I think 3 months would be a long time away for you and her. You could always hire or ask people for help while its just you with the kids.
2007-12-28 21:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by puellaromana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough decision. But Im sure she would be fine and having a new born baby will make it go by fast...and plus it gives you a chance to recover and get everything settled with the newlittle one!...but do what feels right!...good luck!
2007-12-28 21:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is YOUR child...keep her home with you....it will be difficult with 2 kids but it is for everyone with a new arrival. Don't let your daughter go away...she is your daughter and should be part of your family no matter how difficult the first few months will be.
2007-12-28 21:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No flipping way.. How are you even considering giving your daughter away for three months? Dont you think you would miss her, and her you? Not to mention that there are soooo many abductions out of Mexico. All you have to do is watch Glenn Beck to know this..No way!
2007-12-28 21:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Momto8gr8 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If your daughter doesn't have a passport, they won't let her into the country after january first... if she gets into mexico before january first, they will not allow her back into the U.S. So if she doesn't have a passport, then I wouldn't stress about it!
2007-12-28 20:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by PaulaAnn 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋