Question for females only?

Question

If a husband is shut out of sex by his wife, would you be more likely to excuse him for having an affair?

I'm not asking if it's justified, but would you be more able to understand his actions?

btw, I am not married, and have not had an affair, but I do have friends whose wives won't have sex with them anymore.

Answer 1

i really dont know what is going on in those women heads, part of the reason you get married is to fulfill each other's needs, including sex, but they got lazy and feel disgusted about sex, mostly after they have so many kids. there's no excuse, unless she's sick, not to have sex with your hubby when he wants/or she wants it. it serves those women right if their husbands cheat on them!

Answer 2

I would not understand it and would not condone it. What he needs to do is talk to his wife or go to counseling and see where the marriage is failing and why she doesnt want him sexually anymore. My ex had 2 affairs on me and the sex was good and he had no excuse. I forgave him for the first one, but not the second. There is no reason or excuse for an affair, if the marriage is not fixable, they should do the right hting, end the marriage and move on...i can forgive, but i am sure as heck not stupid enough to be with a man who wants others also..

Answer 3

Trust, communication, and sex are all a HUGE part of any relationship. Without those elements there it really isn't worth continuing a relationship with someone and really is a waste of time. Just because a wife won't have sex with you doesn't make it right to have an affair...no excuses... just like it is not right for a wife to shut out her husband from sex...it seems to me there needs to be a resolution or each should go there own seperate ways.

Answer 4

Well, 1st...cheating is wrong no matter what the circumstances are!

2nd yes I could understand the sense to stray but no it's not okay.

I have this book: 7 steps to a successful marriage by Raul Ries. Raul is a pastor at a Calvary Chapel here in California in diamond bar. he has a radio program called "somebody loves you".

Anyways:

Step 7 for women and men is to "satisfy your husband sexually"

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

"Let the husband render to his wife the affection due to her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.............................etc.

Raul goes on to writer that sex is not to be used as a weapon and that when a marriage is suffering the first thing to go is sex.

I suggest counseling. Best of luck.

Answer 5

There could be any number of reasons why a wife would not want to make love. (Big difference than having sex)
And the matter is between husband and wife......Not among friends. Infidelity is never 'understood'.
Issues are meant to be resolved. Not made more complicated, by having an affair.

Answer 6

Okay, I'm the weird one of the bunch. Yes, I would be more likely to forgive my husband for an affair if I was denying him sex for A LONG PERIOD OF TIME. I'm not talking a week or a month here (or even six months), there could be physical reasons why the wife can't or won't have sex.

Oh yeah, and his affair better not cost the household any money and he better not catch any bugs that he could pass on to me.

Answer 7

Nice try guys you are always looking for an affair to be justified here is a news flash: For better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health and forsaking all others, does not mean when the misses does not pleasure me no more I can go out and hump something else. So no and this coming from a woman whose husband did this and let just say he still was getting the bootie so what was his excuse..... And old saying Excuses are like a**holes everyone got one in the case of a man ALOT of them!! Try again not buying that crap!

Answer 8

If the sexual part of the marriage is not there and it making the husband unhappy, he ought to seek help from a doctor or counsellor, not go whoring about.

You marry for better or for worse etc. Not if it is all great only. Work on salvaging the marriage. Many blessings can flow from this.

There may be very valid reasons why the sex has dried up in the relationship. These reasons need to be looked at and the issue addressed by both the partners of the marriage.

Answer 9

that's what they would need to work on and get help? my friends brother just spilt from his wife and he has been sleeping in the spare room for over a year ?sometimes women feel they are not attractive and don't feel sexy anymore and its the have been stuck in a rut and don't look after them selves there body has become used to cooking cleaning and no fore play or nothing to get turned on by wearing the same old baggy trousers and T shirts and husband for a quiet life goes with it instead of helping one another get back into the sex they had years ago ?remember it takes two to tango?easy way out just to go and shag someone else but does not solve the problem or the marriage?have a good day

Answer 10

Well I am a wife who believe in pleasing her man at all cost however women's bodies go thru changes and were not always ready to have sex at the drop of a dime so your friend should talk to his wife and ask her what is the problem. If she's just holding out to be holding out then she leave him no choice, its not an excuse to cheat because he can always masturbate but I do understand his feelings. Again I DO NOT believe in cheating under no circumstances but she needs to let him know the problem.

Answer 11

I defenetly think that the wife should go to therapy. if I was a guy and I love my wife I would try to find out the reason why she has a lack of enthusiasm in bed maybe the guy is doing something wrong mariage counseling could be the best way to go. If they can't talk it out themselves, but cheating is not the answer it might bring problems and even end the marriage. I basically believe that if there is no connection after counseling they should just go their seperate ways is better than hurting eachother with lies and deceit.