get child support? im scared to.. i filled all the papers but everytime i tell him i am going to get it he threatens me with everything imaginable.. that hes going to have me thrown in jail take her away blah blah blah
and i KNOW he is serious
he wont give me a dime for anything!
he wont help buy her things or do anything
hes a fat lazy slob
i need help :(
2007-12-28 12:12:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he doesnt live here anymore, i made him move out a few months ago
but he still threatens me that if i dare go after any money he will do anything it takes
2007-12-28 12:16:01 · update #1
I absolutely can't stand deadbeat dad's. I don't care if he doesn't have a job go after him and report him to child protective services. He's nothing more than a lousy child abuser in a different wrapper. Remember it's your daughter's money and welfare you're after so get him. Keep her future in front of you it will help drive you on. First one to legal aid gets the help for free and the other can't use it because of conflict of interest. Get him first!
2007-12-28 12:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you can't be thrown in jail if you have not done or are not doing anything illegal.
Second if you have court ordered custody, he cannot take her from you, unless he can prove you an unfit mom. If you do not have court ordered custody, make that your first step and the child support will come as a result of that order.
You daughter is entitled to child support, you daughter is also entitled to have her dad a constant in her life, don't take him away from her, in this area you and his feelings don't count, only hers. Also NEVER say anything or let anyone else say anything bad about her dad EVER when she is around. She needs to learn what kind of person her dad is ON HER OWN, she will not need your or you family and friends help.
He might prove to be a good dad in the end. Threats are just that, don't let him bully you or scare you.
Depending on your income you can get legal help free, call your local court.
Good luck.
2007-12-28 12:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by lisani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a backbone! There's nothing he can do to you if you're not doing anything wrong. It takes 2 to make a baby and 2 to support it. Make him take on his responsibility. Don't let him get away with his scare tactics. You never know, if you stand up to him, he may cower down like a whipped pup. He's the one breaking the law, not you. STAND UP FOR THE RIGHTS OF YOUR CHILD. If he can't support ,well, let his fat, lazy, slobby butt sit in jail!!!! He's definitely not helping anyone by being out of jail!!!!
2007-12-28 12:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he can't do any of the things he is threatening. YOU can have HIM thrown in jail for not paying child support, but that doesn't put any money in your pocket, or food on your table. Most deadbeat dads like this will eventually start paying child support to stay out of jail.
2007-12-28 12:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not let him have control over you any longer. you and your child deserve to get financial support from him. like my ex and many men, they run their mouths like diarhea, just to scare you and make you back down. Do not let him have that power anymore and let the courts get you what you need and deserve. If he continues to act this way, the courts can also take care of his actions etc and he could lose any visitation for threatening you etc....document eveything with dates, times, details, save phone calls and records....good luck
another fyi, do not ever let support and visitation get in the way of one another, they are to seperate issues and judges hate when a party keeps the child from the other due to not paying support. even when he is doing wrong, you must do right...
2007-12-28 12:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by ilovedenverbroncos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be real scared because then he will continue to threaten you n keep eating up inside like that. instead file for child support dont tell him and order a restriction order against so he wont be able to take the child away. you can do all this in hiding
2007-12-28 12:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by mexdimpls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What will he have you put in jail for? Sounds like he is just full of crap...
He doesn't have a choice about child support. if he owes it he has to pay it and if he doesn't have the money that means he will be behind and then the state and federal government will garnish his taxes..
File the papers and take him to court. once the order is in place for him to pay, they will automatically take it from his check, he will not have to give you money the state will take each paycheck and then give it to you
Good luck..
2007-12-28 12:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my ex. You need to hire a good attorney. Most attorneys will file a restraining order when they file divorce and child support payments. You can also file thru your local dept of human services for child support enforcement. My husband had to take action with CSE for child support with his ex. They are now taking her to court and she is going to have to spend time in jail.
2007-12-28 12:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't have a job whats the point he cant do anything go downtown and put his *** on child support he will be the one going to jail put a restraining order on him and call the police when he threatens you . or just get sole custody since he does not want support his child
2007-12-28 12:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ricci 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How could he have you thrown in jail?... What else is he threatening you with?
If he is the father, he has a financial responsibility that is completely separate of visitation, etc.
If there is something for you to be fearful of, talk to an attorney...
If he is abusive, there are ways of dealing with that...
2007-12-28 12:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋