..she wants to visit while in this area being tourist with friends.I love the woman still,I don't think I will agree to meet her...it was painful the last time we said good-bye.And I can't use a trip down selected 'memory' lane.To be blunt,she was always a fox and probably still is...I can do without the distraction of that too.
Do you have feelings for your ex still?
2007-12-28 12:08:56 · 45 answers · asked by cygnus4114 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I have feelings for my ex.... they range between sadness to contempt to anger. I try to be civil when our paths cross as I have children whom I do not want to hurt and I have my own standards of being polite.
In your case, stay out of the firing line. It sounds like you suffer too much, so just pass the message along that much as that would be lovely, it can't be done. You do not need to explain. Leave it that you are unavailable.
Best wishes
Lisa
2007-12-28 12:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 18:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been divorced for around 5 years myself. We have gone through all the emotions. Now we are at the point where we tolerate each other. We have two kids so we will always have to deal with each other. Last year I finally found true love for the first time in my life. We got engaged in February. It wasn't until then that my ex called one day and asked if we could get back together. It took me a whole nano second to think about it and I said NO! We had our time together. Though I am no perfect man we both had our problems and I just couldn't put the kids through that EVER again. I have found a great woman now who loves me and cherishes the kids. Only you can make the call, none of us know the total situation. It's kind of like hitting your self in the head with a hammer repeatedly, it feels really good when you stop. Just a thought.
2007-12-28 12:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i seperated a few times when we dated and we would go like 6 months and 1 year with out speaking or seeing each other. then one of us would call the other and when we saw each other we fell back in love and it was like we never parted except the part that when we got back together we never fixed the problem why we split up. now we are married and tring to resolve some of the differeces we had in the past when we should have resolved them before we got back together. It will feel really good to see her but don't get caught up in the moment because you never fixed the reason you 2 split up in the first place
2007-12-28 12:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only feeling I have for him is regret. Regret that I didn't poison the well when I left.
But....people can change after 5 years, especially if you married young. Does she want to see you to rekindle something, or just to say hello?
It sounds like you have mixed feelings about this...since you're here asking the question, you're obviously considering seeing her.
Could you meet her in a group of old friends to take some of the pressure off of you?
2007-12-28 12:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by lee_anne301 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do get these mixed feelings every now and then. Been with my ex for over 5 years. but I'm married now, and I truly love my my wife. Every time I get those feelings, it's like I cheated, and they fill me with guilt. But things get better with time.
Exs need time to get over, specially if you loved them.
some people would say meet her to remember the not so good things. i think that's not the best way to go.
Cold Turkey is working fine with me so far. It takes time and effort, but it eradicates the problem. If you're not 100 % sure that you want to get back to her, then stay away, try not to think about her.
think of it like trying to quit smoking. you keep getting these thoughts that one cigarette won't hurt. But it is that single cigarette that will get hooked again.
2007-12-28 22:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncertain about seeing her then it is best you don't. It will only make you miserable from the sound of things she has moved on and you need to too. Make a point of joining some social club - like a book club, movie club or something - get back out there and find your real match. Good Luck!
2007-12-28 12:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think there is any point in seeing her again. I guess you have to decide whats in it for you and for her. It sounds like you are hung up over her. I was hung up for a long time over my ex husband and then I somehow managed to see him for what he is, and when he tried to bed down w/ me one last time, I told him to go to hell. That was 6 yrs ago. I hope he feels my rejection and I hope it hurts him bad cause I am thru playing games with him.
2007-12-28 12:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, ex is ex. Isn't it convenient, she wants to visit, let you wait on her, feed her and give her a bed. No feelings for any ex, when I'm done, the train has left and will not stop in this station again.
2007-12-28 12:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by answerlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason why they are called an "ex".
Remember why you broke up?Remember all the bad times? Remember the pain and the hurt?Is it worth it to go through all that again? Not for me.I would rather look ahead not behind.
2007-12-28 12:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋