all i ever hear from men is how there are no happily married men, so why do men even bother? i dont get it. and for those of you that are unhappy, what is the reason that you are so unhappy. i love being married
2007-12-28 11:45:33 · 18 answers · asked by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lmao bird. i know right
2007-12-28 11:56:43 · update #1
It's all Candy Canes and Roses at first, but then SHE CHANGES!!!!!!!!! the wife wants to be "Comfortable at home", so all she wears is sweats long t-shirts and a bun. Then she wonders why her husband isn't in the mood. When the arguments start, she always has to have the last word. She makes promises, then has a different opinion later on. And a wife that doesn't have a hobby, gets on her husband all the time for spending money on what he loves.
2007-12-28 11:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Great Question!
The short answer is that these men are unhappy because the women to whom they are married are not the same women with whom they were engaged. The women changed, or more correctly, the women showed their true nature after the marriage settled in.
Generalities always have their exceptions, but the most prevalent problem I've seen in these sort of marriages is selfishness. I've found that when men are unhappy, their women are selfish. The guys become nothing more than a tool (spelled with an "f") for their wives' petty, little lives. The gals do not care at all about their man's dreams, nor much about men in general, except to the extent that they can use a man's character against him for their own self interest. Men tend to be dedicated and responsible, especially when their are children, regardless of their personal happiness.
Frankly, I've found that the institution of marriage would be better served if men walked from marriage sooner and thereby communicate to women, in a way that women would finally understand, that men deserve better.
2007-12-28 13:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I feel the reason behind that is one they did not want to control of a situation and men only want what they can't have or what someone else wants so marrying the girl keeps her from getting away and being with someone else and two to feel like they are grown up because they have conquered the fear of the big C word COMMITMENT! and three they fear being alone and she wanted him enough to marry him so it was good at the beginning and most of us woman do not look for something to be wrong in our wonderful created fantasy world called MARRIAGE . Half the time they are not not unhappily married they say it to feel less guilty of cheating or having feelings for another woman...BOO HOO I am unhappily married sounds better than I am a big horn dog!
2007-12-28 11:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by jodi_t38 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not all married men are unhappy. A good percentage of them, yes.....but there are also a large percentage of women who are unhappily married.
The truth of it is, marriage is not taken seriously anymore. People don't married "til death do them part", they get married until something better comes along or they get tired of their partner.
I love being married too and my hubby and I are both very happy....it's just sad that marriage has become a mockery to many people.
2007-12-28 11:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually the men that say they are not happy is a lie. When they say it in front of other men they are saying it just to be cool around the boys. When they say it in front of other women they probably just trying to pick the woman up.
2007-12-28 12:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by 70RR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"All men say they are unhappily married" jee where did you even find the time to interview every man of the planet? I can not remember getting interviewed! I bet you might be a Lot-Lizard and been only talking to your customers.
Not all men are unhappily married
2007-12-28 11:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by zqx357 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This man is happily married for over 20yrs and
for those that are not evidentally they did not
find their true mate or was not ready for marriage
in the first place.
2007-12-28 13:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether men/women are not happy because they COMPARE with others. What they see is only the surface and does not know what behind the doors.
2007-12-28 12:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey_2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the men you know are unhappy in marriage. Not ALL men are, you can't possibly know ALL men so there is no way you can speak for ALL men when you say they are ALL unhappy in their marriages.
2007-12-28 15:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ehhh... I am a man and am very happily married... 5 years and going strong...
2007-12-28 11:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋