when you have met someone and you took an instant dislike to them and then met them again and still felt the same ,or do you take time to get to know them first before you make your judgement ?
2007-12-28 11:32:10 · 29 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the eyes say it all, i am very clued up to someone who i hardy know, i can tell a mile away if they are genuine or not...i just look into their eyes....they speak volumes...
2007-12-28 12:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never judge a book by the cover is something I learnt many years ago in my professional training Bex.
I am normal a very good judge of character more to do with my instincts than anything but always give people a chance before I would make any major judgement.
I have one of those smacked bum faces which people think at first I am serious and a bloody misery unyet I am knothing like that at all in fact the very opposite so have had what you mention done to me and not nice.
I have always been open honest straight and say when wrong it is about knowing who you are as a person what you are wart and all Bex.
2007-12-29 15:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wish everyone can be a good judge for every character they mingle with.....but that is impossible, because most of the time what we see on the surface is not what really is inside...To be judgmental is also a big flaw in a person...I can honestly say that i was misjudged many times by my looks , but in the end when they get to know me more they would understand that it isnt always true that" first impression lasts"..unless this si applicable in positive thinking! But I have to agree with you too that yes it sometimes happen when you get to meet someone the "vibes" isnt just there and even if the encounter is repeated,still it doesnt give you a nice flow within you...seems like the only answer to this is to be challenged by such character and try to discover more about him or her..after all, all people have good and bad sides in them...isnt it????
2007-12-28 19:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a first impression of someone and didn't get a chance to qualify that impression on the first meeting, I would say this will colour your judgement of this person on a subsequent meeting. He will have to work twice as hard to convince you otherwise. Is this fair?
I am usually a good judge of human behaviour but not as good at judging characters.
I don't solely rely on instant impressions as times and times again my first impressions have proved wrong. I take time and give them the opportunity: I give people enough rope to hang themselves.
Psychologists say instant like/dislike of a person is due to a previous good/bad experience with someone reminding you of him. It could even be a 'baddie' in a movie.
2007-12-29 13:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by R R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a good judge of character, so I'll proceed with caution if I've taken a dislike to someone at the get go. Even so, I'll give a person a chance if my first impression isn't the best but I'm usually proven accurate over time. However, if my dog dislikes someone, I trust his judgment 100% and there is no second chance.
2007-12-28 20:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always used to be a terrible judge of character esp with men! Now I can see the signs but in the past I have dated gays in denial, mental men, alcoholics, bulimics & guys who won't committ to you. I can recognise the signs. If I ever do take an instant dislike to someone I am usually right about that person.
2007-12-29 12:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm an optimist and believe that even the worst people MUST have been nice at some time - might take a bit of time to find the niceness but it's there , somewhere.
I give everyone the benefit of the doubt BUT if they cross me - they can look out -but then again , I haven't met the same type of people as 'Calandra' !!!!
BTW you seem like a nice person -and I don't know you !
2007-12-29 13:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by nanny chris w 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the knack of being able to size a person up in the first conversation. I do not make an instant judgment but after speaking to them for awhile I can assess if they are honest, trustworthy and someone that I would associate with. Seldom have I been wrong and my family and friends agree.
2007-12-28 19:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for asking...
To be honest, I am... and I think every one can be.. The trick is to meet someone, then bring up a strong relevant discussion for example..
You meet a guy - a thin guy not muscular...
You say "so you work out"
He says - "yeah right" meaning he is honest
he says - " errm yeah, i do x number of situps and x numbers of press ups a day" this means he is over exagurating usually, and a very good liar..
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Scenario 2 :
you ask a friend - "can i have your number"
friend replies - " yea here - (and hands you his/ her number" very upfront, and likes the idea of takin it one step furthr
Friend says - "ive just got this number , i will bring you it tomorrow (and never gives you it) - friend is insecure, and does not like you either because you are too annoying or he or she lied about having a phone in which case it makes them a liar... either way you understand you are not wanted ....
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Scenario 3
You say hi to a teacher
Teacher says "hi how are you" - and then does not wait for the reply, it shows how seriously he takes his job and how not so serious he believes his social life at school is...
All the above are basic situations, and it gets way complicated... get a psychology book based on human response, i read one over the summer, gets u thinking : )
2007-12-28 19:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone pretty much judges someone the first time they meet them, it's almost like it's natural since we grow up in the judging society that we do. but i feel that as you get to know that person or perhaps after meeting them again you take more time to re evaluate the judgements you made before and i think we find often times that we judged too soon
2007-12-28 19:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it is about being a good judge or just instinct, I know when I get a bad feeling about a person it is usually for a very good reason. I tink it's best to try and figure why you don't warm to a person, you owe them that, it may be about them or maybe your own stuff. Only when I am certain the reason is their stuff and not mine do I write them off.
2007-12-28 20:18:57 · answer #11 · answered by bumbleboi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋