Why do people hate you if you have an easy life?

Question

I've somehow managed to make my life work out for me and it's pretty easy. However, most of it is because my partner is well off. So, everytime I face my still-struggling through grad school and being jaded peers, who now see me driving a new car,buying designer clothing, getting work done, and living it up, and not even working myself, they get hateful, call me a loser, and basically, all the nastiest remarks and hatred come out, because they think that everyone in society should be like "mary and joe smith," working a job or two, and complaining and having it hard.

Since I found out how to make my life easy and glamorous, while 90% of humanity has it hard, they now hate me for doing so, like I'm some sort of a trader or a bad person or something.

Why must people judge you so harshly and what not?

Just because I currently do not work, does NOT mean that I won't in the future.

Do the people that judge you negatively do so for your own good, or because of resentment?

There are MANY paths in life, and anything can happen. You can even jump socio-economic statuses. Everyone is caught in their own hopeless rut sometimes and because they're unhappy and think their life sucks, or life is hard in general, they automatically hate anyone that has it easy.

that's what I think.

It's like "oh f him, he's this that, bla bla, hateable, who does he think he is, whatever," and they try to nitpick your every flaw.

Even my parents do this.

Yet when you hang out with classier people, not 9 to 5 everyday people, they judge you in a different light altogether. To them, the snobs, you're just never good enogh period LOL. But in a different way.

This is why I hate both rich people and poorer people.

Poor people hate and get angry and bitter because of their own lives,

and rich people are the same way because they feel like they're better than you.


How do I win?


Anyone anyone?

Bueller?

Answer 1

As I said earlier life =competition.
People who have a hard time , and struggling to get what they WANT and NEED will obviously look down on you. You ask why? Well, try to put yourself in other people's shoes and maybe you could understand. If you do not try this, you'll never be able to understand that. People who struggle to get what you are in possession of will hate you because you got it easy. You kind of answered your own question by the way you asked it. People who struggle they have something to be PROUD of: they ACHIEVED THEIR GOAL BY HARD-WORK. This is why these people call you a "loser". People do NOT appreciate the fact that you are benefitting from your spouse and NOT working and SPENDIG what YOU HAVE NOT PERSONNALLY EARNED. People take pride in HAVING TO STRUGGLE TO ACHIEVE their NEEDS and WANTS. People view people who don't do this as someone who as no pride, and basically someone who takes ADVANTAGE. People don't like people who take ADVANTAGE of others.....

rule of life...: people will always judge not matter what: no matter how high or low their socio-economic status is. deal with it.

Oh and people judge you negatively because they see this type of behavior as NEGATIVE for those who take PRIDE IN THEIR STRUGGLE TO ACHIEVEMENT.
Oh yeah and i forgot: THIS ISN'T A WAR. THIS IS NOT ABOUT A WINNING OR LOSING SITUATION.
You talk about people judging you, first DO NOT judge other people WHO ACTUALLY work from 9-5. MANY DO SO BECAUSE THEY NEED TO!!!!

YOU are solely responsable for what GETS TO YOU. It should not if you are COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF, as I mentioned before. Now people, who have opinions and judges by them do not DICTATE ANYONE'S LIFE. You feel that way. YOU SHOULD NOT. Oh and I do agree with you that "DON'T LET WHAT OTHERS SAY BOTHER YOU". BUT THIS IS WHAT YOU ARE DOING!!!!.
Try and be a little more satisfied with your own stuff, and think about your achievements and personal ideals, and NOTHING will get to you. This is why we have things in our possession as so-called DEFENSE MECHANISMS. To protect the SELF. I previously stated these in an earlier answer to one of your previous questions about :How to deal with sobnoxious and snooty people?". You take the same principle. Let everyone live the way they WANT to and they way they NEED to and everyone will be just fine. Others are like you they let SUCCESS of OTHERS get to them. Why? Mainly because they aren't SATISFIED with THEMSELVES. And this being a factor: self-esteem is modest/low, etc... And with that everything EVERYONE ELSE says about YOU bothers you: just logical. Think about it. Analyse yourself, and ask yourself questions about YOU. Then you'll understand.

At the same time try to be in other people's shoes so you can understand to BOTH sides of the story.

opinions and judgements are NOT EQUAL to DICTATORSHIP.
Dictating someone's life would be to tell the person what to do without ANY flexibility or leaving any other option than the one that person CHOSE FOR YOU. Remember that. And nobody can DICTATE ANYONE'S life UNLESS they LET them DO so.

Answer 2

I'm just entering grad school, and I work (but not even 20 hours a week generally), but I manage my finances well enough and people do not appreciate it. I say it's entirely too bad for them because if they would just ask me to help them create a budget or look into other options I most certainly would. So many of them are unfamiliar with a budget and entirely too familiar with debt, therefore, because no fault of mine they tend to get hateful about the subject. You obviously are not some bum milking off someone, you are working just as hard in school, and if by chance you have the opportunity to focus on your studies, then by all means what a wonderful gift, and you most certainly deserve it. Sure, every grad student would be blessed to be able to focus on their studies, but every person goes through different trials in their own lives, it's no reason to cast judgment on someone just because you for example do not have to go through one of the trials that your other classmates do.

I say good luck with your continuing education, don't let it get to you, envy is never the answer. Keep focusing on your studies and don't change who you are because of miscast judgment.

Edit: There is no winning in this situation, you can only be genuine to yourself and to your classmates. If they cannot accept that then there is really no need to associate with them. College isn't about making friends (although amazing friendships may be found), but about finding an education. Don't let them discourage you or make them doubt yourself.

Answer 3

The world is full of people, some are good, some simply find happiness in other peoples sorrows and struggles. Your story or 'predicament' remind me of school, where my friends would do the same to put me down. Never let them win, because they want to be you. From what I've learned, it is all about wanting what you have. Let them squirm in jealousy, you be yourself... Good luck mate! Have a Happy new year!

Answer 4

Well that's part of life, people will always be jealous. I couldn' t handle my spouse supporting me, I just have too much male pride to go down that street. Anyway if it works for you then cool. All I can really say is if you have money that doesn' t come from doing wrong to others, you share, and help less fortunate people, then enjoy it.

Answer 5

I don't think that anyone really hates you. It is just that everyone should have an easy life. We weren't born just to work and waste our lives away.
It sounds a bit like you are also judging people calling them everyday 9to5er's.I know many people who don't work but it doesn't make them better then working class people.

Answer 6

they are just jealous and wish they were in YOUR shoes. Ignore them and enjoy your life.