While pregnant, did your relationship with your spouce change at all?

Question

Was it for the better or for the worse?
If you've had the baby, did it go back to the way it was?
Did you find it hard to communicate with them, about your feelings, or what you were going through?

Answer 1

The first time was kind of rough for us. But, we had a lot of stress in our lives at the time. After baby was born was very difficult for us, since now there was a little one dominating a lot of my attention. But, we learned our new roles, and things were even better.

I am pregnant for the second time, and things this time are very good. But, our marriage was the strongest it had ever been before we got pregnant. We have learned to go with the flow with mood swings. I try not to be crabby, and he tries not to point it out when I fail! We are talking a lot more this time. I think it is a learning experience.

Answer 2

I am pregnant right now so I can only answer the "during pregnancy" part of the question. My hormones have not made me cranky at all, so everything is the same, but I find my husband is overprotective sometimes. For example, he insists on me wearing a hat and jacket at all times when I go outside even if I am really hot. He is overprotective in a good way. I broke down twice when pregnant (I'm 26 weeks) about nothing at all, I blamed it on the pregnancy, and he was very sweet about it. He knew it was just my hormones so he hugged me and made me feel better. That might not have happened if I wasn't pregnant. He would have probably looked at me like I was from space.

Oh also, as far as sex goes, we barely ever have sex anymore. We used to every day before, but now that we can feel the baby move all the time, it just seems weird to have sex knowing that the baby is right there!

Answer 3

My husband and I had just started dating the first time we got pregnant. Most of our dates were parties so we had a lot of changing to do. It seemed to have come easier to me than it did him. His addictions got in the way of communicating most of the time. (and my pregnancy hormones) Things got better a few months after she was born ( and I let him move back in with us) We got married 2 years later.
We got pregnant again this year and he jumped off the wagon after 2 1/2 years sober. I think the idea of having a baby freaks him out or something. He has been doing better but not perfect. We even saw a marriage counselor. I think it will get back to being great when we bring the new baby home. For now I will settle for good...
PS I drag him to Dr appointments so if I have a hard time saying something the Dr's , nurses and midwife will say it for me.

Answer 4

Probably got better, or stayed the same. We're best friends, plus we flirt ALL the time. Being pregnant just made both of those funner. I think now at the end, I'm beginning to get frustrated with everyone a little, but I always hold back on him and/or apologise. I need him so badly :)

But, we're already making plans for us to get away when the baby is about 3-4 months old so we can have a night alone. Making those plans (wheather they come true or not) make it fun too!

Answer 5

Sure...things have changed in my relationship since becoming pregnant. Everything is for the better though. My husband and I have been together fot 13 years and this is our first baby. I think it has made our relationship so much stronger. We talk about absolutely everything! He is so into this pregnancy and wanting to know what I am going through. He is also having strange sympathy things too and thinks it is so weird and neat...so it is really great.
I look forward to seeing how it changes again when the baby gets here. :-)

Answer 6

If you have a good relationship. It will be a better one. Most men think their pregnant wife is more beautiful. Just be sure to include him in all the changes you go through. Hold his hand when you puke and sleep up against him when the Little darling has hiccups all night long. Share.

If your man is not a sensitive, loving, caring, person, he will not change and will be the same and I hope that is not the case for you.

Answer 7

Things do change.... I remember after I had my first baby....my husband was off a week with me and the day that he had to go back to work I layed on the bed and cried my eyes out begging him to quit work and stay home with me....Your emotions go up and down and the only thing you can do is be open and honest with your husband about how you feel...Sometimes we can't even explain how we feel so tell him that so that he understands...Things can always be good just be open and honest and communicate.

Answer 8

While pregnant, I was very annoyed with him. It is actually one of the 'signs' we notice first!
He was amazing during labor, and postpartum. I fell more and more in love with him each day that I saw how tender and loving he was with our baby, and how much he cared for my wellbeing and comfort.
I still "hate" him when my hormones are all wacky, but we have a much deeper, and meaningful relationship since we had our children together.

Answer 9

During my pregnancies sex was amazing ......after the baby was born our lives changed all for the better, after baby 1,2,and 3. We still made time in the evening for communication and making love......child birth is amazing

Answer 10

No its changed for the worse...but not THAT bad not even bad at all...minor things...he has couvades I think and it drives me nuts and he thinks everything is wrong with him all of a sudden since I got knocked up and it ticks me off cause Im puking every day and going through all of this and he acts like hes all helpless and ill even though hes perfectly fine...so I get bitchy...an hes annoying ...it should fade. lol