that you love very much look at you and tell you "Let me go, I cannot live like this!" My oldest sister, my best Friend did that, and when I finally told her it was ok...2 days later she was gone......... Why are things so hard??????
2007-12-28 10:34:31 · 5 answers · asked by Francesca 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh Tina this breaks my heart....she wanted your permission to let go...she could not go on no more....and you gave it to her....there is nothing harder...but what a unselfish gift you gave....your sister died in peace knowing how much you loved her! Life sure is hard...but you made your sister at sheer peace with her life and her death...you were her angle...now Tina she is your's everyday!
2007-12-29 09:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by bodacious baby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sad for you and for your loss. Just understand that it has nothing to do with what you have said - there is never a right or wrong thing to say to someone who does not have the will to go on. The hardest part about this is that all those left behind wonder and worry about what they could have done. Take consolation in the fact that she made her own choice and it was what she wanted. This doesn't make it right - but we are not responsible for what others do - even though we want to help them, it is always up to them whether they want help or not. You did what you thought was best. You will find other friends - better friends. Just give it time.
2007-12-28 11:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by ozinnz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is so very hard. I think of death as a new frontier now. I have seen so many pass as I am rubbing their feet, it seems I have that touch that says it is OK to go now and they just do. This time of year makes it so hard. I was home for Christmas and my little Grandson said Grandma do you remember Grandma Miller? I said, Yes Bug I do. He said, well do you remember the Christmas tree that you and Kimi made and took up to the hospital and gave to her so she could have Christmas before she died? I said mm hum. He said, Well Grandma I still put that tree up every year in my room and I listen to the CD of Christmas songs you made for her because it makes me remember her. He is only 11 years old and she died in 2000. He wanted that Christmas tree so bad! The whole family fought over it but I had made it so I said it is going to MY grandson. I am glad because he still remembers and hopefully 20 years from now he will tell his children about Grandma Miller and she will live on through him. So hopefully your sister will live on too Tina. God bless you and please try not to be so sad you can email me any time you need someone to talk to! I always have an ear to bend! OK?
2007-12-28 17:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by teresa m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all I'm sorry for your loss.
Its difficult to help someone who doesn't want help and feels that suicide is the only answer. Its never ok to commit suicide and if you have someone that you love tell you that never tell them its ok because it's not. When someone comes to you and says "Let me go, I cannont live like this" be there for them suggest that they get professional help.
They may not want to listen but tell them that the problems are temporary and that everyone has difficult times in their life. You can also try telling them that there are people in the world that have far greater problems and that they (your sister) have so many things worth living for then list of some of the things they like and that you know they want to accomplish.
Sometimes it takes outside advice for a person to realize that life is worth living. You can always talk to a professional to get ideas of how to help the one you love.
2007-12-28 10:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mary S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly this is a part of life. We have to make decisions at different times of our lives that are difficult and we learn from those experiences and hopefully become a better person because of that.
2007-12-28 12:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Freckles... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋