Is it wrong for a lady that my husband works for to givea him gifts on holidays and to call him every morning?

Answer 1

nothing wrong with an employer giving a christmas gift to an employee. And if talking to him every morning is part of his job description, there is nothing wrong with that either. Sounds like you may have a serious trust issue there, and your husband is the one you need to be talking to.

Answer 2

The gifts may not be a problem, It they are not too personal. You would have to answer that. But is there a reason she is calling every morning, Has he asked her to? Is she afraid he want make it to work? and need a wake up call? You could do that. Sounds like it is bothering you, And that is good enough to have a talk with him about it. your feeling should come first. And she should respect your private life. You need to address this with your husband, After all would he like your male boss calling you every morning?

Answer 3

No...if he works for her holiday gifts are OK as long as she gives them to other employees as well. And it also depends on what kind of gift. Too personal like clothes, after shave, and underwear is a RED flag! And calling every morning is only OK if it is about scheduling, work related and what to do for the day. Not to see how he is doing!

Answer 4

Please tell me you are joking, right? If not you better open your eyes!!! That is not normal and I would be doing some investigating of my own. Is your hubby working late? Check his cellphone records, he is calling her back? If that woman is married, you may want to contact her hubby to see if he is suspicious of anything. And, if your man is cheating just get rid of his *** now, because he isn't worth keeping around. He'll regret what he has lost when all is said and done. If in the end you find out nothing is going on, well I won't even go there, because there is definitely more going on than just the gifts and the calls.

Answer 5

MORE DETAILS It depends on what de does. If it's construction she might be calling to tell him were he's working that day. If it's an office job on the other hand he could be returning gifts of his own. Gifts at holidays usually don't mean anything more than showing appreciation for the work they do.

Answer 6

YES! Does she not know he's married? May be you ought to call her and tell her, "Hey this is my husband you are calling every day and it's very disrespectful of you to do so. It's not moral". Even though they may be good friends at work, the relationship needs to stay professional/business like. And at work.
The gift giving, well, I did that with my co-workers, gals and guys. But I was a bit different. If I knew they were married, I would include their name, or Mrs. (and the last name). Just out of respect because to me it's not right to disreguard that.
I would also have a long talk with your husband, and try not to do it in an attacking way, and just tell him that it's not right for her to call him there at the house. And that their relationship needs to stay at the work place and not brought home. Also let him know that this makes you feel very uncomfortable and you feel disrespected as his wife, and you hope that he understands your postion. It is up to him to rectify this. Not her. OK. She was probably led to believe that it was alright to call him at home. Make sure that she knows that it's not, and that he knows that it's not. Start your conversation out by saying, "honey I love you, and it makes me feel uncomfortable with having your lady co-workers extending your work relationship to here at home". And go from there. That way you're not starting out by attacking him, when he may be thinking that it wasn't a problem in the first place. And that's ok too, because a lot of men don't think like we do, and we have to take that into consideration. If he doesn't understand, or makes a fuss about it, or completely disreguards your wishes, then let him have it! Spouses need to communicate what they expect out of each other, and do their best to respect, and honor their feelings. Being married myself, my husband and I try to do everything to understand what we feel if a situation comes up. Sometimes it takes a lot of work to work out the issues. Sometimes it don't all work out at first, and it takes a few days to come to an understanding.
I'm hoping the best for you. And I hope your husband will show you love and understanding when you talk to him about how you feel about this gal calling him at home.

Answer 7

I think it is.. I have the opposite problem.. I have to fend off guys away from wife all the time.. calls, gifts, e-mails.. I shouldn't have to feel that way, but I assure you I have good reason to feel the way I do about it. If you trust him and it's innocent then no problem .. but I am not in that situation .. I know if I left here she would have someone in the rack within a hour to replace me LOL grrrrr now im p/o'd

Answer 8

I think it's fine for her to give him gifts for the holidays because she is his boss. Maybe she calls everyday to line him out on what he's suppose to do for that day. It seems like she's not making a secret of calling so it is probably innocent employer to employee relations.

Answer 9

yes, it is wrong, you better get suspicious. I went through the same thing with my soon to be ex, he was friends with a woman he worked with, always told me that she was just a friend he worked with. Well I came home from work one day and found him moving out and moving in with woman he worked with, had been having an affair for over a year, I was totally devastated we had been married for 30 years. So take my advice and start asking questions and looking for signs.

Answer 10

the gifts i would say no to, unless they are very expensive gifts. calling every morning is where i would start to wonder what the actual relationship is between the two. i don't think that is right at all, nor for your husband to allow it.