My mom and dad are divorcing - My dad wants me saterday and sunday, my mom tells me my dad wants me for money?

Question

Okay, so they are divorcing, my question is - If my dad wins the court situation (he wants me saterday and sunday) but my mom says NO to that, will my father get any form of payment? My mom tells me he only wants me for money, my mom sometimes tends to be a terrible mother.. She said this earlier "You almost died when you were little, why didn't I just let you die - If I die you'll have nothing left and you'll die and god will punish anyone who doesn't respect me bla bla bla. I love her and don't want any harm to her.. but honestly..
So yea, it's all highly complicated, I'm a 14 year old girl who's question mostly is if my birth father gets to have me saterday or sunday, will be recieve any money by any type of service? If so I might have the idea that he does want me for that cash he would recieve..

I don't want him getting full custody, my mom says she will leave .... even at the thought of the two days custody.

Answer 1

look Your 14 and it sounds really sad that your mom wants to make your dad sound so bad, Your dad won't get any money and it's wrong for your mom to even imply that. it may be better for you to talk to both your mom and dad and maybe see if your dad will take ya full time maybe he won't make your mom sound so negative. Negatives in divorce aren't looking out for the best intrest of the children.

Answer 2

No sweetie -what your mother means is that she feels your father only wants you on weekends so he has to pay less child support.

Basically, here is what is going on - your dad wants to make sure he still gets be a dad and your mom is being a crappy person trying to turn you against him, being money hungry and making you feel unwanted.

My personal suggestion, talk to your dad, see if he would consider fighting for full custody of you - and let him know you will testify in court that you want to live with him full time due to your mother's degrading behavior. Also ask him to get you into counseling - and the therapist can also testify on your behalf.

You have a right to be happy.

Answer 3

Your mom is using emotional blackmail, perhaps even emotional abuse. I think her issue is not about your dad getting money - it is about her getting LESS money. Your mom would not have to pay your dad because he gets 2 days a week visitation. However, if your mom can keep your dad from getting any visitation, her child support payment will go up.

If your dad wins the visitation he requested, you mom CAN'T say no to that. If she does, she will be in contempt of court, and could go to jail or even lose custody of you altogether.

If your mom treats you like this, are you sure you don't want to live with your dad? At 14, most states will allow you some say in where you want to live. In some states, your decision of where you want to live is considered binding unless the court finds that the parent you want to live with is unfit.

Answer 4

You are in a bad place. You have tow parents fighting over you and you have no say. To my knowledge if your father only gets you for two days it is highly unlikely he will get any money for doing so. Only way to know is look it up in your state.

But...girl...look at what your mother is saying. Wow. She now wishes she would have let you die? Come on now. How can you ever believe anything she tells you.

Your father will be paying child support for you. And it may be because of those two days it is not as much as your mother wanted.

Next time you are with your father ask him about this. Do you trust your father to tell you the truth? I almost guarantee you your mother is not. She is hurt....she is bitter...and you are the only one she can take it out on. Do not take any of this to heart...I know it is hard. You are the only tie now to the man she thinks hurt her and she is using that.

You will be fine as long as you keep it straight.

Answer 5

That's an awful story to read, I'm so sorry. My parents are divorced as well, but they remain close friends, weird right? Anyway, I would see my dad on weekends because like it or not, he is your dad. Now, that said, if he uses you for money, in 4 years you become legally independent. SO... I would then proceed to leave his greedy #$( and pursue the life you dream to have. You will never be in debt to parents who use you for money, only in debt for parents who love you. They have to be a part of your past and your present, but they don't have to be a part of your future. And that is for you alone to decide. I wish you the BEST of luck from the bottom of my heart, I know how hard it is. Just wait it out, the 4 years will go by soon enough.

Answer 6

Oh honey I'm sorry to hear that. I know how you feel. Your mom needs help, I think you would be better off living with your dad. If you get to see your dad saturday & sunday... your dad doesn't get any money. It's the oppisite if your mom gets full custody then your dad will probably have to give your mom money (child support)

Answer 7

You need to tell the judge how your mom speaks to you. Your dad should get full custody. And then your mom would pay child support. She's just trying to talk bad about him, don't listen to her

Answer 8

Your father loves you.It is possible he will have to pay less if he has you for 2 days a week than if he did not butt hats only fare,2 days less of childhood,chicken feed he is NOT in it for the money.Your mother I am sure love you too,depression does strange things to people.

Answer 9

nope he will have to pay child support and a week end visit don't get a dime she lied i was divorced 16 years and got child support and he never got nothing but his week ends and 4 weeks in summer. good luck and who ever is the better parent is the one i would pick to live with you have that right too......

Answer 10

Sorry to hear of your situation. I don't believe he will receive money, but he probably won't have to pay your mother as much for child support if he has joint custody.

Take care.