right hi i ahve a problem me and my man have had sex for over a year we have a beautiful baby boy who is now 4months but the things is i still dont feel comfortable with having sex or any sort play with him i think it may be because he is more experienced and i feel self consious all the time any ideas on how 2 improve this
please no rude comments
2007-12-28 10:13:49 · 16 answers · asked by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to a sex store together. That will break the ice, and you might learn some of the things he is interested in.
2007-12-28 10:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Radertastic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no correct answer for this. The only advice i could give is that you and he need to talk. Hopefully being more open and talking about how you feel, you two can move into a more comfortable relationship. If you are uncomfortable to talk to him, then you two are going to need to speak with someone more professional.
2007-12-28 10:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Gene G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about the problem and see if you can come to a resolution...
I thought that it was a good thing for girls to get acquainted with respectable, experiences guys... does he not satisfy you enough in bed?
or maybe the reason why you are so self conscious is because, you have gained a pound or two... who cares? he obviously does not seem to have a problem...
if you still feel that you cannot relax while engaging in intercourse, try losing a few pounds... perhaps this will alleviate the stress of feeling overly self concious
2007-12-28 10:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by FiniteOxide 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it and how you are very shy about that side of you and he may be willing to guide you slowly into that area until you are comfortable with it. Also you need to let him know you will be honest and upfront about things that you really don't like to do and that he will have to be understanding and accepting of that. Also this way you can let him know easily what you like too. Take care.
2007-12-28 10:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by txdollaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess most people cannot tell you anything new or even helpful. you had best go with your best instincts. people have been having sex for thousands of years. babies just keep coming and it is always a big reason for joy and must always has so many many problems.
nobody knows. just try to do what your instincts tell you. just common sense will be your best bet. if your husband goes to church, you are better off.
2007-12-28 10:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try opening up to him and tell him the truth. He may be able to help you feel more comfortable.
2007-12-28 10:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by springful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no reason to doubt yourself. best answer i can give is to be up front and frank with your other half. i am sure he will come up with some brilliant ideas. (he is a man) or you could read one or more of the hundreds of books available.
2007-12-28 10:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by bigbelly1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try reading a book about sex and ask you trustworthy friends for advice. go to a councilor. maybe you need to get a bit drunk. good luck
2007-12-28 10:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET MARRIED and quit playing house. Raise your child with a mother and father, Not a couple that may be split by the weekend.
2007-12-28 10:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
try not worring about it as much
if he loves you
he wont care how good or bad you are at sex
but if your realy worried
practice with a pillow or something
2007-12-28 10:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋