i dont have access to my daughters PC. what is the best one i can use to install remotely?

Question

my daughter is with a convicted felon who is 12 years older than her. i have no real access to her PC and i need to remotely (and discreetly) install a very good keylogging program. Please help!

Answer 1

I fully and completely understand your concern and share it to a small degree. I can't fully share your concern for your daughter because I do not know you or her. However, I raised six daughters and so understand the worry and fear a mother has when her child is engaging in dangerous activities and with potentially dangerous people.

With that said, unless your daughter is a minor, and you own the computer, (minors legally can't own property, their parents literally own everything they have, even if it is bought and paid for by a job s/he holds and earned on his/her own, thought you should know that bit of knowledge. Knowledge is power! Parents need all the power they can get these days), is it legal for you to place any type of monitoring device on her computer.

Now, there are ways for you to have her take the steps you need to install a monitoring program. You send her an attachment, such as a photo, and when she opens it the keylogger or monitoring device is installed quietly in the background, without her knowledge, unless she has a superb security suite. If she only has one of those free ones, you are good to go.

I will not give you the link to a site which describes these programs. If I did I would be breaking the Yahoo! Answers Community Guidelines and plus I think it is a bit immoral to do this. I fully understand your concern, but is there any other way you can deal with the issue, without breaking the law, and your daughters trust if she finds out what you have done?

If she is grown, sometimes we, as parents, must step back and allow our children to make mistakes in life. It is painfull to watch our children make mistakes, especially ones which have the potential to harm them physically. Physical damage is bad, but emotional damage is often worse, as it lasts much longer in the phychological area of our lives than physical blows. It is rather like a pin prick verses a sore which never truly heals, or takes a very long time to heal.

However, if it doesn't kill her, it will help her grow. I do not mean to say I think she is in danger of losing her life, I don't mean to alarm you any more than you already are alarmed and concerned and worried. I only mean that it is through our mistakes that we learn and grow. If we never make mistakes we will never grow.

Think of all the mistakes you have made in your life and all of the lessons you have learned from them, and the growth you have achieved. Living life gives us wisdom if we allow ourselves to learn from our mistakes.

Young women tend to believe they can change people, that love is all that matters, and that if you love somebody enough that is simply enough to make them be the people they were capable of becoming had they received the proper love and guidence in their earlier lives. While this may be true in some cases, those cases are few and far between.

However, you are fully aware how young women are so romatic and so optimisic in their belief that love conquers all. It doesn't, and it also is not enough to make even a love between two well balanced but totally different personalities work. It takes more than love, but the young don't know this yet, they haven't learned it yet, and they refuse to believe the women who went were they are before them.

Young women tend to think older women have lost that loving feeling, that feeling of being truly "in love" and how consumming that feeling is. We haven't forgotten, we just understand that it doesn't do us a darn bit of good, that infatuation, that "being in love" feeling. While it is hot and heavy and exiciting, with fireworks and optimism out the ying yang for a wondrous future, we older women know the hard work it takes to make a relationship between two undamaged individuals work, let alone attempt to make a relationship work and last when one or both are badly damaged.

It is obvious your daughter refuses to listen to you. It might be that she is doing this simply to rebel against you, doing it to get at you, to hurt you. Young women do this on a regular basis to their parents, and young men and women both often need to be angry to get the imputus they need to leave the nest and stand on their own two feet in the big bad world.

One of my daughters picked a huge fight with me so she could leave. Another walked out one night and didn't come home for months, and only then to pick up a few more items. Both they are I still have a solid and firm relationship, but I was worried sick for them and scared out of my mind.

Young people simply are unaware of how dangeorus the world is, they think nothing bad will ever happen to them, though they do know that bad things do happen, it is just to other people, not too them. I am amazed at how often our young do make it, and safely, to an older age, with how much risks they take! I mean to reasure you that this too shall pass, and to try not to do something which can break the fragile trust between you and your daughter.

Please don't be hasty in what you are considering. Think it through very carefully before hand. You want to be the person your daughter turns to when it all blows up in her face, as we both know the chances are huge that it will, and she will need her mother to help console her and not say, "I told you so", no matter how difficult it is to not say it.

If you create a gulf between the two of you, she might stay longer in a bad situation simply because she thinks she can't turn to you, or that you will judge her and say I told you so.

If, as mothers, we simply bite our tounges and allow our children to make the mistakes they must to learn and grow, we can be there for them when they really need us, be that soft place to fall when life has hit them in the face with the hardness of it.

Think twice and I will think of you and your child over the next days, weeks and months. Sometimes an entry here will grab my attention and heart. I assume this one did because I too have been where you are, and know how frightening it all is.

Trust me when I say that it can and will resolve itself. If you badger her, and slap her in the face, (figuratively) with your strong disaproval, she will be at risk longer, and turn elsewhere when you wish she would turn to you. When she knows that you love her and will support her even if you disaprove of her choices, you will have a strong relationship that you want, and she will need as she continues to grow into a beautifull woman.

Good luck and much success with this situation. Please feel free to contact me if you wish via the private email program Yahoo! Answers provides. Please try to sleep at night and not stay up worried sick. You won't be any help to her if you injure your health, and expect to get grayer before this is finished. lol I am forty five and more than fifty percent gray. Thank goodness for hair color, I am too young to be this gray!

Answer 2

Unless she is a minor, that would be illegal. If she is a minor take the computer away and get a restraining order against the felon.

If she is living with you, you DO have options. You can get a restraining order against him and keep him away from your house. You can kick your daughter out if she continues to see him. You don't need to financially support an adult daughter who is destroying her life. You can also simply turn off the internet service.

Answer 3

You only have the right to monitor your daughters activity on her pc is if she is a minor!!!!!! You have to have good reasons why you would monitor her pc. If she is an adult then you have absoulutly no right. So you might want to rethink what your about to do cuz if she ever finds out i can bet she will never forgive you for invading her privacy!

Answer 4

There's no good legal way to do it if she owns the computer. Whether or not you like it, that's not a good way to approach it. You'll have to find another way to keep an eye on her. If you're that concerned about it, a private investigator would be one of the only ways to get away with it.

Answer 5

How old is your daughter? Cause if she is like minor, get the police involved. Now, if your daughter is 34, then I will just not do that, because that is hacking into somebody's computer and it does not matter if she is your daughter or your next door neighbour, you just dont do that. CAREFUL

Answer 6

A Keylogger? You cant add in a Keylogger, What you want to do is take away the internet, Add her computer to a network to yours, Un-install the internet that way!

Answer 7

keylogging is illegal

Answer 8

I WaNt To TaLk 2 her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!