im 16 & pregnant! im with the baby's father but our relationship is not like before. I just come to his house every weekend & when i dont have school. lately he's been actin real different. we had an argument a week ago and we was throwin me out his house at 3 in the morning. i of course didnt leave but he said that he hated me and everything and he never said that to me last night we were talking and i told him i wanted to go to florida and he took it a little bit too seriously and started sayin he hated me and he he hit me on my forehead twice..and i have a red mark now and it was because of him. i dont kno what to do anymore i really want to be with him but i cant take his b*lls*** anymore and i just dont know how to let go until he decides to change bcuz he is really hurtin me..
2007-12-28 08:29:59 · 40 answers · asked by nena 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
He's obviously not man enough to own up to his responsibilities. I honestly believe you are better without him. Your pregnant for Christs sake, you do not need this type of crap. Its time he realised that you have a very innocent, young person inside of you and it is HIS duty to ensure that both of you are safe.
He shouldn't be making you feel this way. Obviously you love(d) him, or else you wouldn't have had his baby. However, love fades, especially under immense pressure at such a young age. Also, I cant believe he hit you. This is just not acceptable especially in this day and age. It's time you took a stand.
Stand up to him and give him an ultimatum. Either he faces what he has done like a man and agrees to help you through your pregnancy or else he can walk. From reading your question, I suspect he might walk (on the count of he appears to be a coward.)
If he does walk, good for you. My advice to you would be to go back to your family. And dont give me the usual teenage **** saying ''they wont support me" or "they want nothing to do with me".
At the end of the day, your mother and father where in the exact same situation 16years ago and they understand what you are going through.
Please actually take that advice, its invaluable. Your parents do actually know whats best for you. Now of course they'll be absolute RAGING that you got pregnant but they'll get over it, im talking for experience here! My sister just had a baby (although she is in a healthy relationship with the father) my parents were still extremely upset.
That was 9months ago. Now none of us can get enough of him(the baby!). Especially my parents. So you see there is light at the end of the tunnel!! Your boyfriend also said that he hated you. Someone who truly loves you wouldn't say that.
Its time you woke up. As in NOW! You have a tough yet magical time ahead of you and I'd hate to thing that prick who hit you would ruin it for you. Enjoy this time of your life, make the most of it and go to your parents!!
Just stay focused and keep thinking that you'll be a mother, what could be better than that!! I hope I was of help. I wish you the absolute best pregancy
and hope you have a very healthy baby!!
p.s. You mentioned Florida, so I presumed you were close by to it. If so heres some contact details for a pregnancy helpline company,
Breath of Life
Pregnancy Crisis Center
51 North 16th Avenue
P.O. Box 1892
Arcadia, Florida 34265
Phone: (863) 491-5528
best of luck!!
2007-12-28 08:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you the only one that knows your pregnant? That makes a big difference.
Secondly, please remember you are just 16. I am not saying your a baby, i do not know you personally, but remembering that will maybe help you realize that your boyfriend, whom i assume is the same age, is acting his own age. Unfortunatly, not all 16 years act the same, but they are not adults yet. SO their reactions will be not always what you want. Also, if he is aware of your pregnancy, his lashing out is expected given his age and the circumstances.
The hitting part of your problem, well, again, not knowing all of the details, its hard to give the best advice, but the i can give the best common sense advice and that is..Dont ever take abuse from anyone, no matter what. Your most important in this life and your baby. No man, woman, etc ever come before that. Good luck to you.
2007-12-28 08:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by Takeaguess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear of course your relationship is not like before because before you did not have this huge responsibility bun in the oven. There is a reason why they try to get kids to wait before having sex or and that is because they cant handle the pressure if they should get pregnant. I would ease up on him a little and try to deal with your situation on your own first and maybe by then he will have had the chance to think things through. I would not stay with him if he is being abusive because you do have family and friends that can give you support.
2007-12-28 08:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAG! He hit you? And your pregnant with his child? I feel so bad for you. You don't realize what is ahead of you if you stay with him. Sure he's probably scared as well as you, but you NEVER hit a girl/woman, especially a pregnant one. Leave him and raise your child to show respect and love. I know your only 16, but it's the best choice. You don't need a guy that will hit you and it's just the beginning. Best of luck to you and your baby. I hope you have a supportive family hon.
2007-12-28 08:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have read some of the answers above and I say too bad for him. So what if he is only 16 and trying to figure it out. He sure knew what to do to get you pg.
Get your parents involved and the police. This hitting thing is only the beginning. What do you say to a punch in the stomach when you are 7 months? Put his butt in jail for physical abuse, have your baby and find someone better.
2007-12-28 08:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey first of all you are 16. Obviously you have decided to keep the baby. That doesn't mean you have to keep the father. You can't let him treat you like that. His actions toward you will affect the baby as well. The stress he is putting on you is not good for you or the baby either. You should never let any man or woman for that matter put their hands on you like that. His verbal abuse is just as bad as physical. Do what is best for you and your baby.
2007-12-28 08:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by smash6385 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide if he is the father you want in your child's life.
talk to your parents. tell them you need them. you're going through a tough time and they should understand.
if your parents won't/can't be there, then go to a friend's parents or a counselor. there are hotlines that could help you.
HE SHOULD NOT BE LAYING ONE FINGER ON YOU.
if he is going to abuse a pregnant young woman, then he may as well be a child abuser. you need to leave him. he has no excuse for hitting you. none at all. and the baby could have a life that is so much better.
2007-12-28 08:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kenna Coconut™ Actorasauress Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where to start. Where are your parents in all of this? I understand that your pregnant but they let you stay over there again? Leave him before you have another child. Once a man hits you it is all over. He apparently has no respect for you. Finish school go to church and P R A Y. it is going to be hard.
2007-12-28 08:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Gloria R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him and want to stay with him well with an anger like that...I dont know.
But if you find this a suitable awnser file a law suit look into it talk to an eterny or talk to parents about it and see how that works as far as the lawsuit!
I wish you luck in your life this is a bad situation but dont give up youlle get through!
2007-12-28 08:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Spartans Unite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would at least leave him if he is going to hit you now think what it would be like in a year or so, you can also have him arrested for hitting you, hope you do the right thing because you don't want to go through with that all your life. Think about it.
2007-12-28 08:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋