Im a Christian teenager, but I know Im gay at the same time. I know that gays aren't accepted in Christianity, so if I do come out the closet then I know I will lose many friends and be rejected. But I still believe in God and still believe im a Christian. What should I do????
2007-12-28 08:23:55 · 21 answers · asked by Ptolemy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sweetheart, God made you the way you are and loves you just the way you are. You can be a Christian even if you are gay. You can be gay even if you are a Christian. The one does not negate the other.
There are many gay Christians and many Christian churches that accept gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer people. (See the links to Welcoming Congregations and progressive Christians for more information.)
Yes, it's possible that you will lose some friends when you come out of the closet and that's a very difficult thing to go through. (I've been through that myself.) Find some supportive people or organizations before you come out, so that you can have someone to talk to should that happen.
I wish you the best. Always remember that you are precious in God's sight.
2007-12-28 10:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Olive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question isn't 'should come first.' You are a gay man who is a christian. That's the order. I truly feel for what you are going through. But you must ask yourself, "How long should I put forth a false front so I won't be rejected by certain people?" How much stamina you got? Your stamina can be better spent on eventually coming out. You don't have to do it this minute, these things take time. Just as important is allowing those you tell all the time they need to digest it. Try telling someone who is close that you perceive will not reject you. Getting that kind of initial support will help you when you begin to tell others. You won't lose all your friends, but you will gain others. It's all about the Golden Rule in honesty.
And NO, God will never reject you. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I wish you good luck.
2007-12-28 16:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Robert O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have both!
Maybe coming out won't be as bad as you think. Many Christians believe that treating others with compassion is more important than sexual orientation. There are probably other gay teenagers (and adults) in your church thinking they'll lose you as a friend if they come out.
If your church does ostracize you, there are more welcoming liberal ones. You can scout them out by asking if they perform same sex weddings. With luck (or providence) you might meet your future husband there.
It is also important to remember many members of the gay community have left Christianity because of hurtful treatment. Try not to take it personally if some of them scorn your Christian identity. Look for a support group, a chat room or a message board for gay Christians so you won't feel alone.
And don't believe anyone who says Jesus can fix you. The bible talks about healing lepers, not homos.
2007-12-28 17:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by zanderdy JPA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian as well. I also am a lesbian. I don't believe that you have to sacrifice one or the other. God is a God of love. I don't think that he hates gays at all. I think that people have interpreted the Bible in order to make their own thoughts and feelings seem "right." There are a few Christian churches that openly accept gays...you should check them out! Good luck!
2007-12-28 16:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. I'm a proud happy gay man, and also still follow the Christian ideals that I was raised with. There is a happy medium. BUT...no one at your church or the majority of religious organizations (or should I say Corporations) will let you know that.
Follow your heart. That is where the answers lie. Don't be something that you aren't. You know what I mean, I'm sure. You can be both Gay and a Christian.
2007-12-28 16:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Oberon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only some branches of the church believe that gays aren't accepted in Christianity. If the church you belong to or the priest at your local church is anti-gay, switch churches, join something like Metropolitan Community Church. Same god, different (and more loving and open - which kinda fits better with Jesus' message don't you think?) more human interpretation of the Bible.
2007-12-28 16:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jen . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality come first because your born with it.
Religon is learned or brainwashed into you over time.
As far as being Gay and being Christian I see no way to mix the two.
Look at all the comments that christians post as far as gay issues are concerned. How can someone support a religon that demonizes their own sexuality is beyond me totally.
As far as beliving in God, you don't have to term yourself as being Christian because believing in a God does not have to be Christian.
2007-12-28 17:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never the two shall meet. A lot of so called christians have skeletons in their closets. You are who you are, forget people who don't understand or condemn you. If hard line christians are right we will have lots of company including some of them ie; Swaggert, Falwell, Oral roberts, Pat Robertson all liars they will be there sweating beside the rest of us "sinners". Do christians talk about hetrosexuality in church other than to torment gays?
2007-12-28 16:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should even it out...example: religion...I guess provides hope...and faith...and well sexuality provides a different world a world that not even man should get in the way with...meaning....I believe if you trully love someone you should love them regardless of any obstacles that may go against it...after all its LOVE here ...read this even the bible says it
these are scriptures from the bible (christian)
about love
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always persevers. Love never fails." 1 corinthians 13:4-8
2007-12-28 16:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is NEITHER should come first. YOU should come first. If you are having a difficult time figuring out where you stand between religion and being who you are, then it's time to ask yourself some hard questions: If your religion does not accept certain aspects of life, why? If the answer is not to your satisfaction, then it may be time to move on. Just a thought.
2007-12-28 16:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Tom W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋