she is so remorsefull but how do i forgive her i love her but whats the best way to deal with it and move on if you can and how can i trust her now or ever i put on a brave face but inside i feel empty i just feel so betrayed and she says she loves me but how do you know she realy means it its all so confusing the more i think about it the more it hurts so i try nit to think about it is this the right thing to do thanks paul
2007-12-28 08:02:48 · 17 answers · asked by PAUL B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u will be hurt for awhile but love can conquer anything there is. christian counseling may work best when trying to put it all back together. divorce is no piece of cake, so whenever one can avoid it they should. give it some time, lots of communication, counseling, and prayer. bring god into your marriage to ensure it goes well.
2007-12-28 14:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair on my wife 8 years ago and we worked it out. You will never forget it but you can forgive and make it work if both of you are 100% committed to making it work. Yes, it is hard and it will take time, patience, and the committed desire to make it work. Find out what was missing and why she cheated. Open communication is the key and communicate with an open heart and mind. There are two sides to every coin and while it was not right for her to cheat, there are two sides to the matter. My wife and I are stronger now than ever before because we communicate. Time is an incredible healer, take baby steps. The situation did not get there overnight and it will not be fixed overnight. I know most people will tell you to forget it and walk but it does not have to be that way if you do not want it to be like that. It will not be easy, but it can be done.
2007-12-28 08:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your wife, like you say you do, then forgiveness is possible but it will take a long time to regain trust. Don't expect it to happen overnight or even in a month or two. I believe that love and forgiveness are equal. If you love someone and they are truly sorry for hurting you and aren't continuing to hurt you then you can and should forgive. But, again, it will take time.
2007-12-28 12:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the answer to that, if you find yourself everytime she leaves the house are you wondering she is seeing someone else, or when you look at her you feel anger because of her having an affair, then you are not ready to move on, no matter how much you say you are. i suggest that you two go to married counseling, it might help the marriage. you might even find out why the affair happen in the first place.
2007-12-28 08:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by Newlywed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her and want to work it out you will be able to get over it. It takes alot of time and she has to prove to you that she wants to rebuild trust lost or it will never work. Just like anything that hurts, it takes time to heal. Seek counselling if the two of you are really interested in staying together.
2007-12-28 10:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Stina Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't everything in a marriage. Maybe when he found out you had an affair it affected his sex drive with you. If you no longer love your husband and sex is so important to you then maybe your should just leave him alone. Don't come crawling back to him when you lover finds another lover and is finished with you. What comes around goes around!
2016-05-27 12:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by julieta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course she is just like my sister and a good friend where the first time and the second and the third.
Don't think like a man a man has sex it is not related to love a women does it for love and emotion.
Not sexual she is done with you and it is a matter of time before it is over she is hanging on too you because she does not want to be alone and the new guy is not a sure bet yet.
take her back she will do it again.
I say cry and get her out of system
2007-12-28 08:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you forgive her Paul...You are a better person than i could be. I divorced! I felt to oused and could not get past the bedroom immaginations
2007-12-28 08:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Francesca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL U CAN FORGIVE HER BUT U WILL NEVER FORGET. I TALK BECAUSE THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME , MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME. AND ITS BEEN A COUPLE YEARS AND I COULD NEVER FORGET. U WILL ALWAYS HAVE THAT DOUBT IN UR HEAD.... BUT IN TIME U WILL FEEL BETTER. BUT IF U LOVE HER THAN GIVE HER ANOTHER CHANCE. WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. WE ARE NOT GOD TO JUDGE!
2007-12-28 08:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by SEXYCHICK2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"i love her but " ,,,that "but" is the thing that will not allow you to forgive...get rid of the "but" and maybe your marriage might have a chance. Time heals everything!
2007-12-28 08:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋