you let a friend who is also a mother babysit, and she breastfed your baby without asking you, asssuming it was okay? (this happened to my mother with my brother many many years ago)
2007-12-28 07:55:49 · 31 answers · asked by - 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Honestly I don't think I could judge my feelings until I actually saw someone else breastfeeding my child.
That being said I honestly don't think I'd have a problem with it, particularly knowing how much my first needed booby all the time, and that he wouldn't take a bottle most of the time. Without regular intake of breastmilk he would suffer acid reflux and throw up stomach acid. I'd rather he get the milk than suffer.
Why is it that drinking the milk of a thousand cows in one glass isn't gross. Having a baby suck on someones finger isn't gross, but having someone else breastfeed your child is gross?
Honestly I think they only problem I would have is feelings of jealousy. But I got weird when I was pregnant and my son started snuggling his sippy cup while nursing and through the night. But jealousy is a poor reason to deny a baby what they need.
2007-12-28 08:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
the truth is, if I'd left my baby with a friend I'd know for sure it's someone I can trust 100% so if I found out they'd breastfed the baby I'd have wondered why they didn't use the bottle I provided (as my baby was able to use both when he was breastfeeding) but would have been otherwise ok with it.
But I suppose if it was someone I didn't know too well I'd be kinda angry for the opposite of the reasons I'd trust a close friend - I can't trust them completely.
By the way, there's only one person that would have EVER been able and allowed to breastfeed my baby =P
2007-12-28 16:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I guess I would try to focus on the facts that she was my friend and the baby was hungry. If my friend assumed it was OK, then at some point I must have implied or said directly that I couldn't stand the idea of my child being hungry and not having such a basic need met (I can't).
2007-12-28 20:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by JC 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If my baby was unconsolable I woul be totally OK with it.
It's better than them going out and giving my booby baby formula.
My son would never take a bottle. He didn't even have a cup until 10 months or so. If that had happened when I let someone babysit, I'd have been thankful that they were lactating LOL
2007-12-28 18:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't care at all.
Look, I'd rather have my friend's breastmilk than feed my child formula that would screw up his digestion.
This is actually fairly common. I have friends who have nursed each other's kids in a pinch, I know sisters who nurse each other's babies. It's no big deal--assuming you know your friend is healthy. I even had a friend who was in a religious service and had left her baby with her sister. The baby was super hungry, and a stranger who had just nursed her own child offered to feed her baby. No problem!
Then again, I live in an area of the country that has the highest breastfeeding rates with the longest duration. Most mothers nurse here, so breastfeeding isn't considered taboo, dirty, strange, private, or anything else along those lines. They're just boobs, not toxic waste dumps.
What do you THINK they used to do before there were bottles and processed cow milk in a can?
2007-12-28 17:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by maegs33 6 · 6⤊ 5⤋
For me, it would depend on the situation.
A few years ago, my neighbor and best friend had surgery, it was supposed to be a quick in and out the same day. She left her 3 month old baby with us (we had our babies 16 days apart) and she left bottles of expressed milk. The surgery took longer than expected, she ran into complications and we ran out of milk. I tried every kind of bottle I had but he wouldn't take it, I struggled with the decision for a while, but I couldn't stand to see him hungry so I breastfed him. It only happened once, and his mother completely understood. She was thankful that he got fed.
2007-12-28 16:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by forever5 6 · 9⤊ 2⤋
I would be surprised, but just fine with it. Would you leave your baby with someone who used drugs or had other bad behaviors? Probably not. Since she wouldn't likely breastfeed her own baby if she thought something was wrong with her, I'd be perfectly fine with her breastfeeding my own kid. She is my FRIEND after all.
I find it rather not surprising that some women would end the friendship. Makes me wonder if they know what it is to be a friend and make mistakes?
2007-12-28 16:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 10⤊ 2⤋
I couldn't imagine letting anyone else breastfeed my child, but some people would be okay with it. I don't think anyone should breastfeed another persons child without permission though.
2007-12-28 16:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I formula feed (hello thumbs down!) but that being said, if I was ABLE to breast feed I guess the best way to say how I would feel is invaded.
Would I be pissed if someone who babysat my child fed her something she is not accustomed to getting without my permission (different formula, solids, etc.) yes, I would be equally upset.
2007-12-28 16:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
i'd be pissed..breast milk is specifically made by the mother's body for her own child. of course 10-20 years ago, most people weren't educated at all on breastfeeding, and may not have known this. But if this were to happen to me today, i would definitely be pissed..
2007-12-28 16:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by chrisa7584 3 · 4⤊ 5⤋