I dont think he is cheating or anything thats not the case ... but i just cant help but to check my boyfriends email, cell-phone voicemail, and his tet messages. Why do I do this.
2007-12-28 07:36:08 · 23 answers · asked by Mama To 2 Onry Girls 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Lack of trust is only reason!
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2007-12-28 07:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by baby bunny505♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know jealousy sometimes can make you do crazy things but I would suggest you to stop because it only leads you to the end of your relationship if you keep doing it. First of all Try to talk to him and express him your feelings/fears. You are insecure and you should question yourself why. is it something he is doing making you like this? Something he does Not do? You must trust your boyfriend. I know it's hard sometimes. I did check my bf 's cell phone once and found a message from another girl and I told him. we argued SO BAD that thinking about it again now I am still sure he was going to dump me right then. I realized how bad I looked that day How ridiculus I looked and i didnt want to loose him so i never did it again. i wanted to trust him and believe him even if I am honest it's still hard still now. we are far and this is another story but Icannot lie and I feel sooooo jealous and anxious at times that everything begins to sound weird, his voice, his tone, i hear others around, then i stop! I remember to breathe for a minute and get myself back to normal.
So really stop doing it, Start to be more secure and confident about yourself, Talk you need to talk and communicate wiht him. My bf does not like confrontation too much but this is very important in an adult relationship to me. Good luck!
2007-12-28 08:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son's girlfriend does this too. He works, plays tennis 4 hours a day and to the best of my knowledge isnt cheating on her. With you, it could be simple curiosity or not feeling secure in the relationship. Personally, I'm glad they didnt have all of those things when I was married, because I know I couldnt have resisted checking up. I'm sure you know that if you ever did find something really incriminating, and confronted your partner with it-it would be a lot more devastating than the actual infidelity.
2007-12-28 07:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by phlada64 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe YOU are thinking of cheating (or already cheating) and won't want to be the only one....so, if you catch him you can say "Aha!"
The fact that you do it, shows a lack of trust. Don't get married for heaven's sake!!! You should tell him what you've been doing and why (if you know) and then let him go for his sake to find a girl who won't do that to him. When you love AND trust someone with all your heart, then you know it's the real thing.
2007-12-28 07:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Beach Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity.
2007-12-28 07:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Notorious LJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure... and you need to put a stop to it before he finds out and you lose him for good.
You need reassurance from him that he is there and will not leave you.. but even still, that is invading privacy
2007-12-28 07:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u are insecure . or u may have a reason u want 2 find him talking with another girl .
2007-12-28 07:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by ashleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you ask that. It shows you know somewhere inside of youthat it is WRONG! TOTALLY WRONG! Hopefully, you can resist that VERY WRONG compulsion.
2007-12-28 07:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop. That is like reading someones diary. BAD BAD.
2007-12-28 07:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by BirdogsID 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Do Not trust Him and we women are nosy. It's fun too. You are Not insecure---you are Realistic!!
2007-12-28 07:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by Pamela 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋