My ex-wife is dating a convicted drug user who was arrested two weeks ago for a DUI and probation violation for cocaine possesion in May. I was unaware of his history and she has had my son around him numerous times. I tricked her into telling me she used drugs this summer under the guise that I wouldnt have her drug tested. She has primary custody of my son but now I need to know what to do next. My family wants me to take him away from her but I have a hard time taking him from his mom. Should I hire a private investigator to follow her or go straight to DCF to launch an investigation
2007-12-28 07:00:29 · 13 answers · asked by Average joe 93 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, it's such a good idea to get your som away from that. do whatever it takes such a tape recorder, video tape, whatever to record your ex-wife in her word saying something about the drugs, file an report with the DCF and once she is investigated go to the office and play the tape for them, it's a sure thing that you will get the son out of the situation until she decides to better her life or until DCF decides to give you full custody.
2007-12-28 07:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by ~SweeT~ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-05-05 16:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Erica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your ex-wife's house when you know he's there. Drag him into a room and rough him up a little, and let him know in no uncertain terms that if he brings drugs into the house where your child lives again, you'll pull his lungs out through his throat. If you don't have the stones to do it yourself, get someone else to. Most druggies are wimps, so you'll probably only have to scare him once, and you'll never see him again. If you want, just call the cops, and once they either talk to him and/or arrest him, problem solved. Then you can prove that she's an unfit mother, and you'll get full custody. Done.
2007-12-28 08:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by cnjard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an attorney about the best way to proceed. To change custody requires that you show neglect, abuse etc. Your attorney can tell you what evidence you must provide to show that the child is in a situation that could be harmful. Courts don't deal in opinion and supposition, since anyone can make any statement they choose, you will have to back it up with proof. Good luck......
2007-12-28 07:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to call Child and Family Services. That is your son. Do you really want him to be exposed to that kind of thing? What if they left their drugs out one day and he got a hold of them and ingested him. It would probably kill him. If she loved him then she wouldn't be putting her own son in that situation. Secondly, you need to hire a lawyer and gain custody of your son. She can always have visitation. I went through this with my ex. If he wanted to be in his son's life then he had to be drug tested, attend drug classes, and they were supposed to be supervised until he could prove that he could be a fit parent. He chose not to do any of that so he is not in his life anymore. You need to do WHAT IS BEST for your son. That's what parents do. It may be hard for you but if she wants to see him then she will sober up and do what it takes. Good luck.
2007-12-28 07:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by silentrefuge86 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to DCF. If they find her living situation even remotely dangerous to the child, you may have a very good case for getting custody of him. Even if you don't, you've started a paper trail in case this happens again.
2007-12-28 07:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Leaf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fight for your child sweetie. Call Child Services and tell them your situation. Talk to a lawyer
2007-12-28 07:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would consult an attorney first. On one hand, if you launch an investigation and they find nothing, it will be hard to get them to investigate in the future. On the other hand, if you take the time to hire a PI, you will have a hard time proving you are worried about his safety, especially when you delayed in getting him out of the environment.
2007-12-28 07:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a Great Lawyer and fight tooth and nail to get child out of nasty and potentially dangerous situation.
2007-12-28 07:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford an investigator, that might be more discreet. You wouldn't want to tip her off and possibly endanger your son. Pursue this VIGOROUSLY, please. Any mom that would endanger her child like that deserves her child taken away.
2007-12-28 07:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋