Would you continue to be friends with someone like this?

Question

My friend Kristen and I share a same crazy sense of humor. (I actually had a bit of an identity crisis and I based my sense of humor on hers.) When Rachel and I went over to her house, we had a lot of fun. We played dress-up, pretended to be spies, put on stupid costumes and did idiotic dances to (gasp) Britney Spears music. It was really fun and they're the only friends I could ever do that with. But Rachel and Kristen (mostly Kristen) are excessive rule-followers. For example, we were doing gymnastics in PE. We had to balance on each other. The P.E. teacher was walking around, but it was nearly the end of the period. Kristen and I did it for a while, but I was like "No way" after a while. The P.E. teacher didn't notice/care, but she's like "Come on, please...We'll lose points for the day if we don't participate...". She's SERIOUSLY obsessive about rules. If she has a hard time on a test, she'll start crying afterward. When someone called her "stupid" she started crying. She and Rac

hel always talk about people. Our friend Kylie, who we used to be close to, started wearing make-up. They said "Did you see how much make-up she wears? She's so different now. I don't plan to wear make-up until I'm in high school." (We're in 8th grade.) "She'll be like Natalie and Katherine." (These are two girls that wear tons of make-up, take pictures in the bathroom, have had tons of boyfriends, and pretend to be bisexual. Not really, but they do things like simulate sex with each other.)

They really talk badly about these people who do things like wear make-up, and they even told on Natalie and Katherine when they took pictures in the bathroom.

Kristen constantly blames other people. For example, she and Rachel were phsyically fighting with another girl. (Not really physically fighting, they were just joking.) Rachel threw apple sauce at Delana, and they had an applesauce fight. Kristen was right in the middle, laughing, but later she said, "I still feel guilty even though I didn't throw any apple sauce." But she said it in a way that she expected someone else to tell her it wasn't her fault, and she also said it to make it clear that she "wasn't a part of it."

Also, this one girl was making a guy think I like him (saying "Karen's your girlfriend, right?") And everyone was cracking up, including Kristen. When the boy left, though, Kristen said "That was kind of mean, though, you guys." in a way that suggested she was innocent.

Wow, that's a lot to read through. Basically she's a lot of fun, but she's an excessive rule-follower, cries a lot, and always tries to make someone else the guilty one. (She never wants to think she's done something wrong.)

Answer 1

I think it's okay that they want to follow the rules. I'm kind of the same way, except I'm way less uptight. If I do something wrong, I beat myself up about it because I expected to do better than that. I think that's normal for any human being.

As for talking about people, that's something I can't stand. Wearing make-up doesn't make you a bad person, and maybe they should loosen up a bit. If they turn up their nose at everyone for not being just like them, they'll end up with no friends.

Either that, or you could try spending less time with them. They can still be your friends, but you could just not hang out with them as much or make them acquaintances. All in all, you can't change your friends. You either accept them with their many flaws (as eveyone has them -- including yourself), or you look for other friends.

Answer 2

These are all minor problems. Just enjoy being in the 8th grade, before adolescence and real life hit you hard with bigger problems (read some of the other questions for an idea)

Answer 3

deal with it
that's the way your friends grew up
don't try to change your friends into something they're not
and FYI i use to be an excessive rule follower too!
but now I changed
and surprise surprise, the thing that change me was a book the heavenward path by Kara Dalkey

Answer 4

There's a lot of immaturity going on here. Don't be a follower in things that you know are wrong.

Answer 5

eh whats the problem?