How come I'm jealous of White Women and other types of women?

Question

Most men here in America will not date Black women at all, I get very jealous of Hispanic, White and Asian women because these types of women are lighter skin and get the most men atteantion. I'm black woman and I have a light complextion but My skin tone is consider to be dark to other Ethnic groups and etc. things. Sometimes I get stare at by these kind of people. Hispanics talking spanish in front of me and things. how come these men don't want black women?

My Ex is white and left me for one and also have two kids together. I jealous of White, Hispanic and Asian women.

JM: Maybe you just saying that!

What ever Bling!!!!!!!!! I from Knoxville,Tn and my ex is white and he find him a new girl also she white to and got two babies together I mean

Answer 1

Well if you lived in Texas, California,Arizona or New York and you were going to College I am sure you would find the man of your dreams. You cannot change your skin color like Michael jackson. Light skinned girls are pretty. I think it may be because you are living in Knoxville /TN if you lived in another multicultural city like Dallas, Houston, New York, Los Angeles, Phoenix etc. you could have dated men of different races.

Answer 2

I understand your question. You should know that it's true. Color is not what matters when finding a mate. The problem is that not enough people know that. The people on this site saying it are a minority. There are also a ton of people who make the same statement but will not follow through on it. People are incredibly shallow and cowardly. I, as a fellow black woman, am telling you not to set your hopes on searching for the perfect man or a man out of your race. Instead, focus on yourself, your personality, your spirituality, your career, and other issues you are dealing with. You must mold yourself into a wonderful person that you will love first. Men and everything else comes later. You will never have a successful relationship is you are not fully confident with yourself. Do not depend on someone else to make you into an exceptional person. You must stand strong on your own. We are all beautiful; you, me, and all the other women in this world. I am am sure about this: The right man will find you when you are ready for him. You do not have to prove yourself to people, especially the shallow ones concerned with skin color. Be true to yourself. God Bless You.

Answer 3

Don't be jealous. The reason why tht is happening s because you gotta boost your self-confidence. Everyone is beautiful no matter what skintone, height, weight, or size. Trust me, I know tons of men that want black women. Maybe, if ur looking 4 a man and the people near u aren't interested, try a new area. Don't mind those people who stare at youu either, they're probably doing that because they think your pretty. Oh yeah, and don't pay any mind to your old husband either, he doesn't know what he's missing cuz i'm sure ur a great person!

Answer 4

You should never ever be jealous of any woman, no matter what race she is. Just remember, the color of the skin doesn't really matter to many men. Just be yourself & one day, the right man for you will come along. It'll probably be when you're not looking. Truthfully, I haven't seen too many Hispanic men with black women, & I live in a large southern city. I think many of them stay with Hispanic women. I am only speculating.

Answer 5

Your question ought to be, "Why do I care so much about finding a man?" The answer to that will solve your other problem:

Women are naturally dependent, which can sometimes be a bad thing if taken to extremes. Your goal should be independence, financial and emotional. As you break free of guilt and depression, forgive others and yourself and admit your hurt and stand up for yourself (verbally) against people who hurt you, you will learn the most important kind of love, love for yourself.

You skin tone isn't what's putting off men, white or otherwise, because the man you want to find can see beyond those things. You just haven't become the person who would meet people like that yet.

Answer 6

Wow, where do you live? It's not like that here in Miami...we are all mixed together with different colors and like it that way. Don't be jealous of those women where you live...it seems like the guys where you live are idiots. Maybe you should grab your babies and move down here where people are just people no matter what their race. You'd be totally welcomed and would find a good man in no time.

Answer 7

It made me sad to read your question. But yes it's true some people are shallow and only see what's on the surface and nothing more. Relations between the races are way too complex.

Don't be jealous, don't let this drag you down. Be who you are and be confident that the right man is out there looking for you.

Answer 8

Sweetie ;I think maybe you put too much into the color of your skin. You are just one of a lot of girl's that get caught up in mixed race relation ships. From ,friends I seen this happen to is not The color of the skin, each race has their own way they do things. and sometimes they just don't know how to work out their differences.on the way each one was raised.
So ,I don't think you are jealousy of women per say .They are just living the life you want. Try dating guy's from your own race
for a while ,see if this helps. who knows it could turn out pretty special. being your sweet self help s lot. Good luck

Answer 9

I don't know what part of America you live in but I've been asked out by men of all races ESPECIALLY white men, you can't assume that your experiences run parallel with every other black woman's experiences in America. You need to build up your self esteem and stop letting immature individuals who stare at you in a malicious manor weaken your confidence.

Answer 10

Not that way in Texas, most of the people are dark skinned.
My spouse has black hair and brown eyes and at least half Indian descent. Everyone doesn't fall in love with blonds.