My friends daughter suddenly died on Christmas and she was only 20 years old.?

Question

Is there anything i can give to the mother like a book or something to help her out?

Answer 1

I think a book is a good idea but I think she'll have alot of grieving to do before she is ready to sit down and read how to cope. You could make her some food like lasagna that can frozen then thrown into the oven. Sounds simple but it will be on less things she have to do while she grieves. Also you can give her a card and this web site www.compaionatefriends.org. It's a support group for parents who have lost children young. And finally you can pray. My heart and prayers go out to her family.

Answer 2

I'm so very sorry. To be honest with you I don't think there is anything you could get to help with a loss of a child. I would just let them know that you are there for them whenever they would need you.
If you feel you must get them something I would recommend the book....."The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran. Better yet there is a writing in that book about children. You could simply google the book and copy the one specific writing on children and print it on some nice paper and frame it for them.
After you read it you will understand what I'm talking about. The book is AMAZING.

I'm so very sorry. No parent should ever lose a child.

Here is the writing:

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And he said:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Answer 3

I think your presence to support her through this awful time would be the best thing you could do. Perhaps you could take a casserole and dessert in a couple weeks. There will be times when she will not have the emotional strength to fix dinner. Ask if you can help her with errands, laundry, anything she might need.

Answer 4

dog trainer 30 plus years- dog rescue as well - I have heard each of these one million times over. Inside I would love to put this on my phone...but outside I know it won't work. It is a good idea to share this with as many people as possible who even on this site because some people cannot actually see what they are doing until it is reflected back to them. This is really full of a lot of truth! Thanks for sharing.

Answer 5

Thats horrible, one of my friends died on Christmas day as well...The best thing is just to be there for her and give her support...I'm so sorry for your daughter, its a shock and I know exactly how she feels

Answer 6

Check out this website. So many books on losing a child.
My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and his/her family. Also, you just being there and even putting this much consideration into helping is such an endearing sentiment.

Answer 7

After something like that, nothing will ease the pain but time. I don't think she needs anything but the support of people around her. Just let her know that you feel sorry for her loss and you can never possibly understand her pain.

Answer 8

Ummmmmm....... Give her a book. Perferably 'Where the Sidewalk Ends' It is poetry. It is for kids but it is a good book. I got it for Christmas and I have it read already. You can find it on Amazon.

Answer 9

awww poor her =(
try sending a letter
&& talk about some things what
happened to you try to make her smile in the
letter try to give her comfort in the time of need
i know its hard for her. she needs all the spport
she can get she just lost a love one.
try to cheer her up but be there
as often as you could ..but make
sure you let her cry her tears because
she needs to let it out.

Answer 10

All you can do is be there and hold the tissue box for her. I doubt she will feel much like reading anything for a good long while.Poor thing. Just be there, that is the best anyone can do for her.