HI there before you read this, i know what you will be thinking ...homewrecker...etc
but let me share with you, i met my man 2 years ago it was a casual affair , he was looking for a lover , i wasnt, the reason was sex was high on his agenda it was missing from his marriage, his wife of 5 years has MS...she cant make love or have sex whatever u want to call it .. anyway we saw each other our arrangement as u call it worked for a year, then we fell deeply in love couldnt be without each other he doesnt stay far from me ..so its easy to see one another, we make love 5/6 times a week constant txt and call.. but the thing is, he is leaving his wiife now because he wants to be with me .. ive won u said ..but no i feel for the wife , shes ill lost her husband , but the story i want to tell is you cant help who u fall in love with , everyone has a soulmate we just happened to find each other and we compatible what we have him and his wife never has..
2007-12-28 06:22:59 · 20 answers · asked by jaycee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
**** all these other people who are calling you a homewrecker. It is not your fault that his wife has MS and he's leaving her. There is no need to feel bad about it now. Whats done is done. So instead of thinking about her and her feelings you need to focus on you and your new relationship. I am definately not saying that this is right at all. Its life though
However I must warn you. Please always keep in mind that they way you got him will probably be the way you lose him. If you start a relationship based on lies then it will most likely not work. I am not here to judge you at all. I just want you to know what you are getting yourself into.
No matter what forget about everyones negative opinions and do you!
2007-12-28 13:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by yatta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel you have found your soulmate but surely some kind of morals should stop you two!!!!! That situation is all around just plain wrong and heartless. If he's willing to leave his wife for another woman, wouldn't you think if he found better, he would do the same to you? Then where would your soulmate be???? The fact that marriage is a contract of love and commitment "through sickness and in health" that doesn't say very much for either one of you!!!!
2007-12-28 06:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by ~SweeT~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why are you telling us this? Is the guilt eating away at your soul? Cheating is cheating no matter what! Why did he not leave his wife before?! Well be careful because you know what they say! What comes around goes around, once a cheater, always a cheater, Karma is a b*****! I am thinking you guys will have some BIG TIME trust issues!
Marriage is supposed to be for better or for worse, in sickness and health and he broke those vows with YOUR help. So good luck and like the guy said, maybe you won't get sick. If you do, how sad you know exactly what he will be doing on your lonely nights! Karma is coming to you!!!! Have a great new year!
2007-12-28 06:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anais 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your telling us this because you feel guilty.
Let me explain something to you your always going to feel guilty and what if you got sick "you know in sickness and in health"
I would not encorage him to leave.
I will tell you this I am a muslim in our religion men are alloud to marry four wifes and this is the purpose because god knows better then us if this man was a muslim he would still have to take care of his sick wife and he could then marry you and have the love and sex ect...
Many non-muslims talk about the 4 wifes thing like it is bad but if you use it the way god intended it is a good thing like now in this situation.
It is not meant for pleasure.
Anyway your in a tuff situation I almost wonder why he just dont talk to her like a friend.
Look if they are not having sex I am sure she needs his emotional support he should open up to her be honest tell her he cares for her but they dont have sex ect...like you explained and he is missing that and would like to move on but still be friends with her.
You on the other hand should encorage that number one you know he cannot cheat with her she is sick and number two it will make you not feel guilty anymore.
I strongly suggest this for both of you to be happy and not have any guilt.
Trust me she should understand and if she does not at least it is off your head
2007-12-28 06:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you cant help who you fall in love with, but you can make sure you have morals. The simple fact he was married is enough for me not to be with him. "Once a cheater, always a cheater". I bet you will find down the road he cheats on you too. Thats how it usually works and from my experience - it does! I feel for the wife with MS, it is a very bad situation for her and now she will be alone. WOuldnt be suprised if she tries to end her miserable life. But thats just my opinion being as I have gone through a cheating husband that left.
2007-12-28 06:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong, you can help who you fall in love with. If a guy is married and you start seeing him, you accept the risk that you will fall in love and ruin the marriage. If you had refused his first advances, you never would have gotten this far, so skip the rationalization. No matter what anyone says, having regular sex requires attraction, and sex itself produces a strong bond. You knew what you were doing.
2007-12-28 06:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wowwy, this is a difficult one. If she has MS how long do the dr's think she has to live? Couldn't he stay with her until then? He should at least remain a part of her life, how will she do things for herself? MS is a horrible disease. I think if I were you I would not be able to sleep well in this situation. I would encourage him to honor his commitment to her by being there for her in her time of need. He can continue to see you and you can get engaged or whatever for now. It would be sad if selfishness won this battle. Love, true love is understanding, compassion and co-operation. You could do a lot for yourself and your future with him by making this stand for him to do the right thing. Imagine in the future if it is you who are plagued by a crippling disease, will he do the same to you?
Yoda out
2007-12-28 06:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very first mistake was getting involved with a married man. You should have felt guilty then, not now. Apparently you did not think about her the first time you had sex with her husband.
You can control who you fall in love with. You chose to see a married man and let the feelings grow.
2007-12-28 06:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just beware that the relationship may not be all that great once you get what you want. The excitement and secretiveness of it all may be what was driving you both in the first place. Once that is gone, the relationship may be boring.
2007-12-28 06:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by DeeGee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is your point. Are you just writing all this for bragging rights. I mean I don't get what you want or what you are asking. The damage is done. Good for you ya homewrecking whore
2007-12-28 06:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋