We dated for 2 months. The first month was great - we saw each other a couple of times a week, always had fun. Never slept together.
After a month, he said he wanted to "think about things" and "slow down", so we did. I quit calling him, he continued to call me, and we went to each other's company Christmas parties last week. Had a great time, he was very sweet, kissed me goodnight, etc.
But I haven't heard from him since. I am so upset! I know for a fact he's not seeing anyone else. I never said I loved him or did any of that other crazy girl stuff. What happened? I liked him so much!
2007-12-28 05:58:30 · 13 answers · asked by monicanena 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the first month, he told his family about me, I met all his friends and he was calling me his girlfriend.
2007-12-28 05:59:25 · update #1
I know your wondering what went wrong? Your looking for closure. These men are not that smart and most avoid rather then say what the deal is. The truth of the matter is he likes you and ran scared. I would not be so available next time he calls. Be nice and sweet but, don't jump every time he calls or asks to see you. If you drop everything to go out with him when he calls you will be a back up. Men like the chase. They all say they don't want to play games but they do.
2007-12-28 06:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but did you ever think that maybe you came on too strong. That's a turn off. You did write you liked him a lot and he wanted things to slow down. Guys and girls in a beginning of a relationship, don't like feeling like marriage right away. Do you know what I'm saying? It's happened to me where I started dating a close friend and got ahead of myself. Next thing you know, it's no longer working out.
Maybe he likes you but feels like you like him way too much. I suggest you don't call him, let him call you. Have you ever seen "How to lose a guy in 10 days"? If you haven't, I suggest you watch it. It would give you some insight on little mistakes woman do that makes a guy want to leave. Turnoffs for the beginning of any relationship. At this point, do not call him at all. Temptation might be killing you but your pride is on the line. He wants a confident woman not someone whose going to break down like this in the beginning of the relationship. To him it will be harder to deal with you later.
2007-12-28 06:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two months is too soon to be so devastate over something that really never was. Take it easy and try to focus on you and the things you could be using this energy for at the moment. These type of things will happen. That's why with age you will learn to guard your heart and not fall too fast!
2007-12-28 06:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know it's hard letting go of the "what could have been". Date other men, see what happens with him in the future. Sometimes it helps me if I tell myself that this will be my history one day, I will move past it.
2007-12-28 06:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really needed time to think things through like he said because maybe he wants to be sure he is ready for such a committed relationship.
2007-12-28 07:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by baby girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That stinks! really bad, but like someone said he just must have not been that into you. Bummer, but when you meet the right one you will be so so thankful you didn't end up with him. (just make sure he's not in the hospital or something lol)
2007-12-28 06:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by ninthnarnian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on...if only after 2 months you are this upset, that is not good! i'm sure you are going to be dating again soon...don't put your heart out on the line too soon!
2007-12-28 06:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about calling him, let him call u.
I think he is just not that into you, because if he was he would be calling u and wanting to be with u most of the time.
Good Luck!
2007-12-28 06:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality check girl: he isn't interested in you. That is what dating is about: you meet people to see if you are compatible with each other. If not, you move on.
2007-12-28 06:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by CatNip 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess he just wasnt that into you. it seems like he's got issues. coz a man who really likes a gurl will not play games and especially wont go AWOL on u. it just shows that he didnt like u enough to stay. what to do? find someone else who wont play games. arent u sick and tired of games?
2007-12-28 06:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋