I am 14 and I really do feel like I am living a pointless life. I have never kissed a boy or had a boyfriend, and I don't even know any boys. I have only three very good friends, and they all live about an hour away, so I rarely see them outside of school. I have no friends where I live, and really don't know how to make any. I am terrible at sports and don't enjoy playing it, and the only hobbies in my area are sport orientated. I spend my time reading and on the internet. My problem is exacerbated by the fact that I have a sister who is a popular socialite and she spends her time going to parties. No, I could not ask her to invite me, because 1. she is five years older than me 2. we do not have a good relationship and 3. I can never be myself around her as she has the ability to make me feel so small. I know I am only 14 and maybe my social life will improve as I get older, however that is what I tell myself every year and nothing has changed. I feel so pathetic..
2007-12-28 05:18:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hang in there and you will be fine. You seem like a bright girl.
Get a hobby to pass time. Just wait until you get your license.
2007-12-28 05:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by OC Boarder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, your life is not pathetic, monotonous maybe, but at the age of 14, life is just beginning!
This is not the time for you to worry about boyfriends, but a about how you can become a better person! I know you said you don't like sports, butI would strongly encourage you to participate in at least one sport, whatever seems interesting to you, because it'll keep you fit and is a very good way to make friends!
Take trips: school trips, trips with your family, trips on your own (maybe to your friends' houses for a day or two?)
And you read! That's fantastic, keep reading, and find people who enjoy reading as much as you do! (A book club of sorts, perhaps?)
This isn't the time for you to give up on life, it is a time for you to discover and improve yourself, to figure out what it is you would really like to do!
I think many people go through the phase in their teenage when things seem pointless, I did too, a few years ago, but I've got to tell you, life is a risk you have to take.
Come on, you are so cool! You're using the word "exacerbated", and I think that's fantastic. :)
Enjoy it. Good luck hun xx
2007-12-28 05:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answers is the least likely place to get a supportive answer to your question. However, I'd like to counter all the other idiots who are undoubtedly typing "u suck" right now.
You're right. You're 14 and things WILL ABSOLUTELY NOT be favorable. I can count the number of pleasant memories formed in my 14th year on one hand. Don't panic.
Number one. Try not to base your life's defining factors on boys. This is the reason that all the popular girls in school will be pregnant drunks in college. Instead, examine your positive attributes. Go ahead and break it to yourself that, not only is it impossible to please everyone, it's just not worth it. If you base your contentment in the growing understanding you have of yourself, and not in the approval of others, then their opinions become meaningless.
Number two. Take pride in who you are. You have implied that you are a little "different", and this is ALWAYS a good thing. And you're right; in the long run your social life will improve, but not because you'll be more popular. It will be a result of your self-awareness and self-understanding. I can tell you one thing: the fact that you capitalized all your I's sets you above these losers.
2007-12-28 05:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by tercellulite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are ONLY 14. Believe me, bf/gf relationship at your age is pointless. Things will happen when you are 16/17. Read now so you can use that knowledge later. You will be a smart 17-18 year old that will now offer MEN something that might turn into something good. Take advantage of your youth by not trying to force anything.
2007-12-28 05:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will improve. I remember being in a similar situation when I was fourteen. I managed to find a group of like minded individuals through an internet community and things took off from there.
You sound like you have a classic introverted personality .That's perfectly normal. About 25% of the world does. It's not easy being an introvert, but it has its virtues.
2007-12-28 05:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Goth Skunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. LOTS of people have pathetic and super-monotonous lives. You have to be really lucky not to.
2. I don't agree w/ you however that the meaning of YOUR life should revolve around silly boys // whether or not you've dated anyone, especially not when you're as young as you are! (or were... you're 21 now! Wow!) Either way, I've hoped you've matured some. It gets better, always. x
2015-01-29 20:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey trust me... from experience boys arent important. Do good in school and when you go to and finish college you will see why boys werent important at 14. Be glad that you arent having sex, doing drugs, or drinking. You sound like a good girl. Friends @ 14 usually betray you anyways. If you feel lonely or not good about yourself why dont you donate your time for a good cause? Help with a charity or something like that. I bet it will make you feel better and it should be very rewarding for you. =)
XOXO
2007-12-28 06:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Chargers baby! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel.
I have been through something similar.
Please keep telling yourself that this is not permanent.
Things DO change.
Your life may not be kick started until you are 21.
You have only been living/breathing/seeing/hearing for Fourteen Years!
Give yourself a break.
Relax.
Take this time to get to know yourself and what you want from life.
In a few years, you will be way ahead of the game and others will be looking at you with envy.
2007-12-28 05:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by vhesponage 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its going to sound stupid to you now but you should spend time with your family for now use the internet to get wise about the world & when you have saved some money , go out & explore the great wide open , mean while your sister will probably be worying about being tied up in some troublesome relationship dramas & wonder what to do with life because she spent too much time worying about how cool she looks of something
2007-12-28 05:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by triplepip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking the Lord Jesus Christ to be your Lord and Savior is the best thing you can ever do to make your life here and your after-life great. All non-christians will be sent to the eternal lake of fire (Revelations), because they have not accepted God's Savior of mankind. Jesus took the punishment for your sins, but you have to receive it by making Him your Lord and Savior. Once you accept Him into your heart, He will send the Holy Spirit to lead your heart on every aspect of your life, like dating and marriage. Sex before marriage is against God's will. Choose wisely!
2007-12-28 05:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Light W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋