I will have a baby shower at the end of March....i will be about 38 weeks then. When are waiting until then because that is when my MIL will be here....I would like for her to be able to be there...she is coming from overseas.
We are really waiting to buy many things, because we want to see what we get at the shower and then fill in from there. So, if the shower is that late...do you think i'll have enough time to get the rest of everything....or should I honestly think about having the shower be early.
Or...should I just relax...and go with the flow.....
Or, should I go ahead and buy stuff and return/exchange baby shower stuff that I already have.
Thanks for your wondermoose answers!!!
2007-12-28 04:49:57 · 18 answers · asked by BlueBlue 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hey im due 4/15 too!
2007-12-28 05:33:49 · update #1
That seems really late, but hopefully it will work out for you. I understand the importance of wanting to have family there with you! I had my shower when I was 30 weeks along, and that was exhausting enough. I can't imagine what it would be like two months later.
If there's things you absolutely want or need, get them yourself and get them sooner than 38 weeks...don't count on getting all of the essentials from your shower. Register for the basic things...basic baby clothes, a bath tub if you plan to use one, diapers and changing supplies, etc. That way, if baby does come early, you'll still have everything you really need to have in place.
Another thing to think about: my husband and I have a large family, and it took us a week to get stuff from our shower put away. I remember when we brought it all into the house, you couldn't even walk in the nursery. Make sure you have help afterwards getting everything in order! Good luck and congrats!
2007-12-28 05:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♀B♀S♀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would buy the things you really need (some outfits, a few blankets, bottles, formula, diapers, car seat, etc). Then hold off on the other items until after that shower. The one thing that won't be fun is if you have the baby, you may have to go shopping with a baby instead of just you. You may also take extra time to recover - so it may be difficult to get out.
So, if you are a very organized person - it might be easier on you to be prepared ahead of time with everything you need and then just return/exchange everything you don't need after the shower.
You know yourself best - do what you think you will be more comfortable with.
2007-12-28 05:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're anything like me, I wanted to get the baby stuff as soon as we knew the gender! But I think you can wait until after the shower because chances are, you will get enough baby stuff to last you a few months from the shower gifts. It would be a waste of money on your part to buy clothes and other things before the shower because you definitely will get all the necessities from your friends and family. A good thing to do is to register for your gifts. You'll probably get just about everything you registered for so that will give you a good indicator of what else you will need to buy.
2007-12-28 04:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Karla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that once you hit 36 weeks, you're within the window to give birth. What happens if you have your baby 2-3 weeks early and you don't have ANY baby stuff?! I would make sure that by the time you're 36 weeks pregnant that you have all the necessities, just in case. If by 38 weeks, you're still going strong, go ahead and have the shower and then return/exchange any gifts that you've already gotten. Keep in mind, that sometimes people forget to give gift receipts, so make sure you hold on to yours, so you don't end up stuck with doubles. Probably the best thing to do would be to start a baby registry and just put "nice-to-have" things on there.
2007-12-28 05:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Joanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried planning a baby shower with a girlfriend of mine but she lives across town & the commute is difficult. So me and my boyfriend decided on just buying our items instead. I still registered and we've been buying several things. Just found out I;m having a surprise shower from my work 2 weeks before I'm due also. I would continue to buy the items you desire and return what you may not need after the shower. That way you will still be prepared if you popped before the shower, at least you'd still have some items for baby.
2007-12-28 04:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen and you may have the baby by then. I was induced @ 37 weeks with my daughter. So there is no way I would wait that long because what if you have the baby and then you dont have any of the things you need. Talk to your MIL and see if it's ok for you to go ahead and have the baby shower and then when she gets there tell her that you will have a get together to celebrate and she can give you her gifts then. Just tell her that you want to be sure you have the basics so if the baby happens to be born early you will be prepared..Good Luck
2007-12-28 04:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by It's a Girl!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister told me not to buy anything!!! This is my first baby and I don't want to go into labor and not have anything for him... I've been anxious to buy stuff and she keeps saying no... Although I think I'm a little on the safer side than you are... My shower is next Saturday and I'll be 35 weeks... I say you go buy stuff... Just in case... Don't get too many of the big stuff... Just a few sets of clothes, diapers, hygiene essentials, a blanket or two... wait on the bouncer and crib and stroller etc. I hope you make it... Have the shower when your mother in law is there with you... It'll be a nice experience for you all...
2007-12-28 05:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by *~*MOMMY TO A.J*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My baby is due 4/15/08 and we are having my shower on 3/15/08....my mother is coming from Cali to surprise me (Shh I'm not supposed to know) and I am FREAKING out about being ready and having to wait till after the shower to buy stuff...so my husband and I are assuming financial responsibility for all the big items (crib, dresser, stroller, swing, etc) and we are just asking (if people buys gifts) to give us gift cards (for our registry) or diapers and we'll do the shopping for her...
I will be 36 weeks...I can't imagine waiting until 38 weeks but I completely understand wanting your MIL there...I would suggest having people buy you gift cards and diapers and going ahead with the major furniture/gear purchases yourselves.
Edit: CONGRATS we're both having tax babies...hehe...are you having a girl or boy!! We're having a little girl and I can't stop shopping for her!!
2007-12-28 05:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone i know had a baby shower planned for week 37 or something and her water broke that morning! that's the bad news. the good news is that they tried something cute. they waited until baby was 4 weeks old and mom was feeling a little better and then threw the shower. everyone wants to see the baby anyways, it's much easier for everyone to come and see baby at once instead of poor tired mom taking visits from people one by one during those hard first weeks.
2007-12-28 05:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*lol* I was the same way!
My shower was 2 weeks before I gave birth (even though my shower was over a month before I was due)....so the 3 days I was in the hospital everyone ran around & got the missing items & made sure the room was ready....then on the day I came home I have bags & bags of stuff waiting...it was kind of fun.
Don't worry. It WILL get done :)
2007-12-28 04:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋