Is my doctor right?

Question

I had been questioning for a while weather or not I was pregnant. I finally went to the doctors to get a blood test and found I a 8 weeks pregnant. My finance and I are really excited! Before I found out I had doubts because I didn't feel pregnant the way many woman say they do. Even now knowing I am pregnant I still don't feel like it. My doctor told me this could result in my having postpartum depression after the birth of my child and it will take longer for me to build a bond with my child after I give birth as well. Is this true. It's not that I don't want to be pregnant because I do and I truly am excited. I just don't feel pregnant.

Thank You! This made me feel much better I was stressing thinking there was something wrong with me. hahaha a lot of you made me laugh which I appreciate. I'm taking your advice and I'm getting a new Doctor.

Answer 1

I am 9 months pregnant and if it weren't for my belly I still wouldn't feel pregnant. THis is my first child, but it seems so surreal. A lot of woman acutally don't feel a bond until the child is born

Answer 2

I didn't feel pregnant in my early weeks either. I thought that you were supposed to feel really different when you are pregnant and nothing like normal when you are pregnant. I am 32 weeks pregnant and still don't feel very different aside from the kicking and moving. I tried many years to get pregnant and finally succeeded. About the depression thing I am not sure if that means that you will have it after giving birth but let me just remind you to ask for help if you ever feel sad after having the baby. It is not something that can be predicted nor controlled and it happens due to hormones and has nothing to do with the type of person that you are. No woman wants to have it. Ask for help if you feel overwhelmed, do not be afraid to ask others to help you take care of the baby and have some alone time if you need. Unfortunately, there is not much we as women can do to control our hormones after giving birth but your doctor can prescribe you medication to help ease the pain if this were to happen to you.

Answer 3

I had really bad post partum depression with my first and during that whole pregnancy I felt every pregnancy symptom. I wouldn't listen to the doctor. Every woman and the way their horomones work are very different. I'm 35 weeks with #2 and I have not felt pregnant at all through this whole pregnancy. I am very happy & excited though to meet my little one (a boy) but I know the bond will be stronger once he finally gets here. The doctor putting stress on you about that is not good for your baby. I would suggest changing doctors so that you feel more comfortable before, during and after delivery

Answer 4

Okay, stop the train. You need to get a new doctor. What the HOLY FLUCK does he think he's doing telling his patients these kinda of stories?

I didnt feel like I was pregnant at all, I had a short spell of morning sickness from 9-12 weeks, and then went back to not feeling pregnant. I didnt LOOK pregnant until I was nearly 7 months, and I did everything just like always, and didnt feel a bit different. And I didnt have ANY of those troubles, in fact it was the complete opposite.

Its never a good idea to have a doctor who lets his own personal opinions and theories dictate how he informs his patients.

GET A NEW DOCTOR.

Next thing you know you'll be in labor and he'll be insisting on a section because you've been laboring 8 hours. Jeez, what a quack.

Answer 5

This is a common, natural concern for mums-to-be at around this time. Up to now you may have been feeling sick, very tired and generally unsociable, and beginning to wonder if you would ever "bloom" in pregnancy!

By the twelfth week of pregnancy your baby is fully formed with all his essential organs, such as heart, liver and kidneys in place. Some of these organs are beginning to work or function for themselves. The placenta that has been growing and "nesting" into the lining of the womb, is also now working and takes over providing nourishment for your baby for the rest of your pregnancy.

It is as though everything "settles down" after the initial major changes and upheaval to your body over the last three months. Your baby, safely protected and provided for inside the womb, can quietly get on with growing and maturing.

For the next three or four weeks your baby will grow rapidly, but unless you have an ultrasound scan at this time, you will not be physically aware of the changes. The growing baby means the womb enlarges and, after 13 weeks, it cannot "hide" any longer and starts to appear above the pubic bone. By 16 weeks you will notice that your clothes are tighter and more uncomfortable around the waist. Some mothers-to-be will be aware of a slight bulge below their belly button sooner than this.

If everything was not as it should be at this time, as well as "not feeling pregnant", you should experience other signs of problems, such as a brown vaginal discharge or bleeding, although some miscarriages - known as 'missed abortions' - are only discovered during a routine antenatal visit.

It is normal for all mums-to-be to worry at this time -- after the early sickness and before the visible "bump"! It is a time of healthy, rapid growing for your baby and a time when you can begin to relax and enjoy being pregnant as you feel more like your usual self.

Answer 6

At that stage, there isn't much to 'feel', you know? I didn't feel pregnant until after I started to show. I never really had morning sickness, I was just tired and moody. It is surreal at the beginning. I wouldn't be concerned about it, most women I know feel the same way at the beginning! I had no postpartum depression, and no problems bonding with baby! Your doctor sounds a bit iffy. I would look into seeing someone else in the practice, or changing offices. Congratulations!

Answer 7

what your ob/gyn is saying could and could not be false, it depends on you, really. I always felt like I wasn't pregnant but I never had problems bonding with my baby boy. However, if you keep thinking you're going to get depressed then you WILL get depressed. Sometimes all it takes is the mental decision to be happy to be happy.

by the way, some women don't feel pregnant right away. Sometimes it'll happen in the second or third trimester, so you may just be waiting still.

Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 8

I am pregnant right now, but Idon't really feel like it. I had an ultrasound yesterday, so I got to actually SEE that I was pregnant. Before that I didn't really believe it! And you have 7 more months to get used to the idea of having a baby! By the time it gets here, you will be so excited!!

Answer 9

This made me laugh! I'm 35 weeks and still don't FEEL pregnant. Even when she moves or kicks - I simply think "Geez, what did I eat today". Then I remember - oh yeah, its the baby!

Once you find out the sex (if you do) and start buying things it sinks in a little. Also, once you torture yourself with ASSEMBLING all of the baby's furniture, toys, etc - you will 'feel' a little more pregnant.

Don't worry though - everyone is different. Don't let someone set you up for postpartum...

Answer 10

i was the same way...and i wouldn't listen to what your doctor said. I'm 28 weeks along with my baby boy, and i'm estatic. i love this child more than anything all ready.

my fiance and i talked about trying to have a child, but it came sooner than we expected. i tested two days after my missed period because i suspected i was, and i got a positive test (which false positives are really rare). i didn't believe it, so i took another one the next morning...also positive.

i then went through a period of depression as well. i wanted nothing to do with my fiance, and the thought of going through this pregnancy made it worse...luckily it was due to the significant rise in my hormones.

now...all i want to do is look at baby clothes, and baby things...i can't wait for him to be here. i already feel a bond with my child, and he's not here yet.

it took me until i was about 13-14 weeks before i actually felt pregnant, and even then, it wasn't that strong. now i just can't ignore the huge belly in front of me :)

congrats and good luck!