help! wats life waitin for being a stepmother w/ 4 kids 19,17,15,13 am only 28 i love their dad who is 38?

Answer 1

First of all how long has the dad been seperated from the mother of his children is there only one mother of his children analyze all of the little factors because it is hard to be with someone with so much baggage trust me I know I just got of a relationship w/ someone who had a child w/ another woman and if the other woman is scorned the relationship is doomed.

Answer 2

You have made a big mistake for the sake of what you call love. This guy is 10 years older than you and that was your first mistake, now he expects you to raise his kids?

I suggest if you aren't married yet you turn tail and run, don't walk away from this. If you already walked down that isle, then you better establish from the start what you will be in this family; not the maid, not the taxi driver, not the do everything for everyone door mat. Make that very clear to that hubby these are his kids and his responsibility.

All too often men with children marry someone they can dump their kids on, sad but true.

Answer 3

I am on the other end of this question.

My dad is 50 but looks to be in his mid to early 40s. His wife is 24.

He has had a lot of different wives throughout his life. His oldest daughter is 27. He had two sons with his next wife who are 26 and 23. With my mother, he has sons and daughters aged 19, 16, and 15. The poor girl could fit in with the brothers and sister age-wise.

Here's the good news, though. Out of six sons and daughters, only one is ever rude to her and the rest hush him up when he's being an ******. We just want our father to be happy and I'm sure the same is true for your husbands kids.

Unless of course their mother died recently or you caused their parents to divorce, you should be fine.

Answer 4

Don't know what your question is - but I'll comment on your situation; WTF....seriously- what are you thinking? Sounds like the boyfriend has had lots of fun already. Why would you potentially want to even think about anchoring yourself to someone who has already had a family. You're 28, can I assume you will want children someday? Why would you think this might be a good situation to put yourself in? Loving their father, well that wouldn't be enough for me. You can still have a love for him, but not be with him.

Answer 5

You might be able to identify with the older kids 17 & 19 because you just left that stage but the 13 & 15 might still be in the rebellious stage (which might be a problem). If their biological mother is still in their lives then you might not have a problem, she'll be there to handle them along with their father. If they are well behaved, there should'nt be any problems. But good luck anyway.

Answer 6

Its very hard !! They are all teens . So you should prepare yourself to be a good friend to them. Prepare your mind and Heart to be a friend morethan a stepmother. Then only you can relate with them. First , try to understand their emotions when you enter in their life as a step mother. Will they accept you? If not try to build a good relationship with them. Later they may accept you ! Be careful !! Don't spoil your life in one way!! If their father is willing , ask him to build a strong relationship with his kids. One thing you can do more than asking help from God than people.!!!

All the best !!!

Answer 7

he is lucky to find someone like you and he if is smart do everything he can to make it easier on you.there will always be challenges with kids and being a step mom you get the you are not my mom.and there is where dad has to man up and stop that in it's tracts.they need to respect you because if they don't your life will be hell.see how he treats you now and how is your relationship with them.does he support you in from of them.take your time that's a big decision.you must be an amazing woman.

Answer 8

No offense, but any man who has kids not much younger than the woman they are dating is looking for someone he can control and manipulate. A normal man wants someone who is on the same level of life experience who knows what life is about. Not some skirt he can mold into what he wants.

A normal man wants a partner who is able to live their own life with him without guidance. Not a child to raise and train and guide. You two have one sick relationship.

You need to find a man your own age with similar life experience and goals for the future. Or you can be the next Stacy Peterson.

Answer 9

19,17,15, and 13

No. 1 in college
No. 2 and 3 in college is 2 to 3 years
No. 4 is the tough nut to crack.

If you love him and feel that your meant to be together then go for it. In 7 years you'll have an empty house (assuming you don't have children of your own).

Answer 10

If you are real cute, you may have to cut the testosterone with a knife to get through to them that you are their parent and not some chick their Dad drug home. I'd set an example of being the role model before trying to mother them.