Can anyone help me on a difficult situation?

Question

I'm 18 in March and had been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years until we split a couple of weeks ago,but I carnt help but feel extremley jealous of pregnant women/people with children, as he made me have an abortion for him and now all I feel is I wish I could go back, I would love his children now but I carnt wait for him which is part of the reason we broke up. But now I long for a child and I feel I shouldnt, I carnt change his ways and I carnt change how I feel, what can I/we do?

Answer 1

Well it sounds like you should have thought through the abortion a little more than you did to start. But whats done is done. Try to move on from that...I am sure that is scarring. Second, you are 18 you have an entire life ahead of you. Relax. You will meet someone and get married and have babies. Go to college get to know who you really are and what your goals in life are. Do things that make you laugh. Do things that make you happy.

Answer 2

Dear, you should never let anyone talk you into something that serious if you don't agree or didn't want to...it should have been for you not him. But to late for that and you have to move on.
As far as wanting a baby...hun I am about to be 25 in feb. I have a three year old. Now don't get me wrong I love him VERY much and would not change a thing...but there are times I feel like I missed out on some fun, like I missed my youth and wish I could have it again for just a little bit. Don't jump to being an adult or caring for someone else 24-7. Wait to take on that responsibility and enjoy being young and "free" ....get a puppy it is a good place to start! LOL
Just wait. It is ok to feel the way you do, but just put a lot of thought into it before you take the leap...it takes a lot of money, time and energy to care for a child. They are a blessing but it is better to be ready as you can be for that blessing!

Answer 3

First of all, no one could "make" you have an abortion; the law of the land and basic common sense dictate that it is a woman's right to choose. Beyond that, since you are no longer pregnant, may I suggest waiting until you are a more established citizen before becoming pregnant again? (That is, educated, career-enhanced, financially stable, married) Your goal should be to not just have them, but to be able to provide appropriately for them...easier said than done, I know.
I'm sorry for what you've been through. I hope your next experience is far more positive. Happy New Year.

Answer 4

umm, well im no teacher so im not gna lecture, i have no interest in telling u what to do!!

but, everyone thinks differently,

u sure u know whats involved in having a kid, ur time will be gone, no social life? think about your career, can you support a child etc?

theres many free phone consultants or social workers who can speak to you and you can get a better response than posting here, ...just trying to give honest help.

if i ever made a gurl pregnant, i would never, make her abort, its not her fault, i dont blame ur bf but i think hes a coward

ppl should understand life, because its always changin nothings certain, u shud be redy for a family, u shud be able to giv ur child what u didnt get, well atleast thats the way i think

neways,

tc

typer

Answer 5

Please slow down. You are only 18. You will always have the need an want for a child. If you and your boyfriend broke up then wait until you meet someone that will be with you forever. Take if from someone who raised two boys on her own. It is hard to be a single mother. Wait until you have someone who will be there for you and help you raise your child or children. You have lots of time!!!

Answer 6

its called guilt for killing your baby.