I sometimes searches my bf phone and it annoys him. He says that I don't trust him and this makes him mad. How do I regain his trust? Will he eventually grow tired of the relationship?
2007-12-28 02:56:58 · 17 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless he did something to lose your trust in the first place, it is unfair for him to be guilty until proven innocent. You are invading his privacy, and privacy doesn't equal cheating. If he did do something that warrants your suspicion, either you forgive him or you don't. If you don't forgive him, and he has no chance in regaining your faith again, then let him go. You deserve to be able to trust your mate and he deserves to be able to feel trustworthy. After all, what is a relationship without trust. In the end, you'll drive yourself crazy wondering what he's doing and he'll grow to resent you for not believing in him. Hope I helped! Good luck!
2007-12-28 03:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Crissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a snoop and mind your own business. I had a relationship where a girlfriend figured out my passcode for my home phone and screened my messages. Needless to say that relationship didn't last. With all due respect, I hate this crap and I hate it when people do not know boundaries of privacy. If you don't feel you can trust him, which is obvious because you check his phone, then break it off. You both will be happier.
2007-12-28 11:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you snooping around? It should annoy him. It would annoy me. Has he ever given yor a reason not to trust him? And, if so, why are you with him? If you have chosen to stay with him even after a mistrust, that is your choice and you cannot be prying around. How would you like it?
He is definitely going to grow tired of the relationship and leave you if you keep it up.
2007-12-28 11:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep double-checking every move he makes then he will get tired of it. One thing I have learned is that if you are going to constantly accuse a man of cheating or imply that he is then guess what.......he eventually will. Men have a thought process of "If I am constantly getting accused of it and having to deal with it then I might as well have the fun of doing it anyway." Right or wrong that is the way some of us think. What you have to realize is that no matter who you are with they are capable of cheating (both men and women). It doesn't matter, because if someone is caught in a vulnerable moment then who knows what they will do. All you can do is believe in yourself, get rid of all insecurities and trust and love your partner.
2007-12-28 11:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will he eventually grow tired of the relationship? Definitely the answer to that is YES. He will try to look or find new relationship which do not investigate his celphones & other personal things.
How to gain his trust? Try to be someone who he does like, haven't you ask his question of his LIKES & DISLIKES. From there you could start by asking him what he likes most of the women.
2007-12-28 11:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason as why you shouldn't trust him? If so then your relationship isn't going to work cause there is a trust issue. Sure he will grow tired of it..wouldn't you? Stop mistrusting him and then he can trust you.
2007-12-28 11:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing that, he will grow tired of that. If you don't trust him then it might not work or things are going to be very difficult for both of you. If you really love him, then you should trust him. Don't mess something you have for something that might not be.
2007-12-28 11:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by why ask 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop searching his phone, that tells him you do not trust him. you probably go through his wallet too and search his pants pockets too!
until you stop not trusting him this relationship is going nowhere.
as for the guy, get far away from this woman. there are other fish in the sea.
2007-12-28 11:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself why you are doing the snooping? You are looking for something. Do you have reason to suspect he is cheating on you? Or are you looking for a reason to dump him?
If the latter is true, then just dump him and move on.
BTW- YES! He WILL get tired of that crap very soon! Or at least he should!
2007-12-28 11:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi why are you in this relationship when you do not trust the guy youre dating ,has he done something to deserve this checking up on him ,(only you can answer this )and as for will he get fedup with this checking ,think about it for youre self ,how would you feel if he was always checking up on you ,you would get feed up and walk away ,what ever is causing it you have got to sit down and talk to him before he comes to the decicion of having had enough of this ......would you like youre life without this guy ?think about it ,.....and take care xx
2007-12-28 11:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋