my wife after 14yrs in 2005 looked up a old boyfriend and they started talk via email then cell phone and texts about meeting 4 sex, but my wife and i shared the email account and i found out about it and his wife found out about it at the same time. so we all agreed the talking would stopand it did. so we worked on our marriage throw 2006 and was doing good. but in march of 2007 i got a phone call from a man in chicago tell me that my wife was sending nude pics of herself to a man in chicago d.smith so i ask her about it and she said no way, but i had a program put on our home computer to record what comes in and out. it toke along time to find it because we were doing so great i didnt check the file for all of 2006. but then i found it she was have web cam sex with him. we dont have a web cam but he does and she would watch him. and they were going to meet he was planning a trip to town to see her.he show the pics 2 others. we are going to counseling but i want more out of life
2007-12-28 02:37:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh we do have kids. a girl thats 11,a boy thats 8. the kids are great kids and my wife's mother talks about how good the kids are around her alone ( my wife' mother ) and how good the kids are with me, but the moment my wife walks in and the kids hears her voice they start acting wild not minding. my wife's mother cant believe how they act. my mother-in-law knows about the old boyfriend but doesnt know about d.smith in chicago and webcam.
2007-12-28 06:04:33 · update #1
how sad this is happening to u, and u should want more from life than a cheating wife. doesn't sound as if she is too mature, or has much respect for her marriage. if u want out of the marriage who could blame u because of what u have had to put up with. if therapy isn't working, its okay to seek divorce from someone who has betrayed u. but be sure before u undertake such a drastic thing. make sure the marriage can't be saved first. but chances are if she is covering it up and lying that she has no interest in coming clean and working on the marriage.
2007-12-29 13:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are stuck on the 14 years you have vested in this woman. But...she has established a path of self destruction and no matter how much effort you are puttting into getting her back to a sane marriage, it appears she has very deep issues. If you love her, continue the counseling... but know that it could drag on for years and that nothing will probably change. Also, consider yourself. These are instances that you know of... there are probably more. She's pretty hard core, ( web cam sex??) and she's a proficient liar.
2007-12-28 02:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say but you might need to get a divorce. Sounds like you wife is not going to stop. As she is still doing this and you guys are already going to counseling. She has a problem not u. Unless you choice to stay in this marriage with her cheating over the internet with other guys.
2007-12-28 02:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you have to love her to put up with the crap the first time but for it to happen again is stupid on her part..you sound like a real great person so why not just move on with your life and let her be. She is prob going to keep doing this cause she can. You say you are going to counseling but she cant be helped unless she actually wants the help. Find you somebody worth your time cause she is not.
2007-12-28 03:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's time you got out of the marriage. It sounds like your wife would rather have sex than love. I'm sorry to hear about the problems and wish you better days ahead. Thank you and may GOD bless.
2007-12-28 03:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in case you have faith a be conscious he says approximately you being a queen, then something is faulty with you. He has been enjoying you for a fool for some years and you have been letting him. in case you had some self admire, delight and dignity, then you relatively could record for divorce as we communicate and take him to court docket to possess the homestead, the little ones and all his funds. he's the single that relatively disrespected you and ruined the marriage, no longer you! Threaten him asserting "you will pay for this & payback is gonna be a b i t c h!" sturdy luck
2016-10-20 04:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really not mind this? How can you have been putting up with this? If you want more from life then you need to go out and find it since apparently she is not the one to give it to you. I just hope you guys don't have any kids.
2007-12-28 02:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by why ask 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well she THOUGHT about having sexual relations but she did not correct?? I am JUST being devils advocate here. Find out if she truly wants to stay married. IF she does, there should be no other sexual communication with other men. If she agrees to this, I would forgive her for the things she THOUGHT about doing and go on. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-12-28 02:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a good time to get a lawyer and divorce her man, don't put up with her acting like a slut
2007-12-28 05:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by J A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah it sounds like it is time to move on. if she was going to change and learn from it, the first would have ended it. in some cases people can't or wont change. i can see a lifetime of heartache if you stay. sorry, but one time maybe a mistake and a learning experience, the second time it is a pattern and i wouldnt look for it to change.
2007-12-28 02:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by phoster 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋