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he tells me that i dont like him .i like him.he doesnot understand

2007-12-28 02:32:52 · 30 answers · asked by swapna k 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

30 answers

SOUNDS LIKE HE DOESN'T LIKE HIS OWN SELF OR HE IS GUILTY OF SOME THING HE HAS DONE AGAINST YOU. MAKE HIM TALK IT OUT OR GET OUT. YOUR NOT HIS CHILD AND HE DOES NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO SCOLD YOU. YOU HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE, WHY LIVE IT LIKE THAT??

2007-12-28 02:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Have you ever done this to him? I ask because if you have you may remember that you were reacting to something he did. He may now be doing the same thing with you so stand back (put yourself in his shoes) and try to be unbiased when you think what could 'I' have done to make him behave in such a way towards me?

Most of the time it will be a response to something that has been said or done by either partner that causes missunderstandings and then a break down in communication. Cause and effect. For every action there's a reaction.

If you honestly can't think of something that could have caused it. Surprise him by cooking him a meal, have some wine and gently bring the subject up without getting demanding or defensive. Give him a chance to speak even if it's not what you want to here. Before responding to what he has said, think about it. Sometimes we act in ways we are not aware of and are surprised when someone brings it to our attention. It takes a brave person to admit when they may have behaved inappropriately, whether it be you or your Husband. Lets hope you both value your Marriage and each other enough to be honest and open with each other.

You need to be upfront with him and tell him he's hurting your feelings and rather than go down that rout again discuss problems as they arise instead of letting them fester as they seem to have.

Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

2007-12-28 11:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Fiddlesticks 3 · 0 0

I'm going to make some guesses here and pray that I'm not offending you. This was an arranged marriage, perhaps? You didn't have much time to understand each other before the marriage? Your husband could be trying to assert his authority or be insecure as others have suggested, but the only way you can find out is to calmly discuss what's wrong. Try not to cling to him and try to encourage his honesty. However painful his revelations may be, its better to know and be able to decide what you want to do than to be left in the dark.

2007-12-28 10:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Holly R 6 · 0 0

When any one hears your story..they give you the simplest but the hardest resolution which is divorce..but why? I guess you have to settle down first and talk over your differences...find a way for you to take his time and talk matter of things pointing out this negative attitude of his..we cant be all perfect, perhaps you husband is having trouble in his job and the only way he can empty himslef is at home and poor you, you become the shock absorber..all trouble with his own family..you cant just leave him like that?Then he needs your help, this si the time you can prove to his suspicious mind that you love him,.your man is just being paranoid on something and feeling insecured..find it out and if worst comes to worst and he cant be dealt anymore.......then you decide, ok? It is your life, not ours here!!!!

2007-12-28 10:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0 0

He needs to see a Dr. right away. It could be his true colors shining through, or it could be a sign of something more serious. A neurological disorder, hormone imbalance, or a sign of mental illness. How long have you been married? How long have you been intimate? If it has been years, and this is a sudden change, I would be worried about this being a medical problem.

2007-12-28 10:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shelby R 3 · 0 0

Usually when someone starts being mean or abusive and they never were before, something has changed in their life that they are not comfortable with...so they take it out on someone else. I would try to ask him what is bothering him and point out that he is hurting your feelings for no reason. Good luck!

2007-12-28 10:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by floridacrain 4 · 1 0

I think you should change this negative into positive. Talk to him. Spice up your romance, Don't waste a marriage for better and for worst. To death do us part. Remember this and this shall help you with all your problems and misunderstanding. Don't let negative answers control your relationship, Pray and you shall see answers, don't give up now, please. Best of luck and Have a Happy New Year!

2007-12-28 10:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 0 0

He is frustrated with something. There's something really bothering him but he doesn't know how to tell you. Being harsh is a mechanism of defense. Something is going on that you are missing. That's why he thinks you don't like him, because he is viewing your actions as signals that you really don't care. He can't understand why you can't see his pain.

2007-12-28 10:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1 0

If your husband never used to do that, then maybe he's cheating. When a man changes his ways that's a sure sign of cheating. Good luck with this one.

2007-12-28 10:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Classy Lady 5 · 1 0

Tell him to take a flying F*ck at a rolling donut and pack your bags. He sounds like a control freak and a bully.

2007-12-28 10:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Something has changed. Get out. Sounds like the beginning of domestic violence.

2007-12-28 10:38:22 · answer #11 · answered by Neva N 2 · 0 0

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