My husband for 15 years is asking for divorce stating that i am not not at his mental level and he can not spend quality time with me. I have two kids. i am a house wife dependent on him.
I have found that He is having an affair with a girl 11 years younger to him and because of this he wants me to set him free. what are my options & On what grounds can he ask for a divorce from me. What are the legal procedures in this regard.
2007-12-28 02:21:12 · 13 answers · asked by ks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stating "not at mental level" is not a valid reason for divorce. Since he is having an affair, hire a lawyer and a Private Investigator to gather evidence then go ahead with the divorce. Take the house, car, children and a monthly alimony and good riddance to rubbish.
2007-12-28 02:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually 'irreconcilable differences' is all someone needs for a divorce (Yeah - courts make it easy to divorce now). I would retain an attorney or get some sound legal advise. If you are hoping that there is something you can do to save your marriage, please go to the website below; it may help you. He is only using the excuses of you not being at his 'mental level' and he can't spend quality time with you because he is emotionally attached to this new woman. I am so sorry that your husband has allowed himself to become involved with someone else when he had you by his side to turn to. If he is dead-set on divorce, you won't be able to do much except protect your assets and protect your financial future through the legal system. You and your children have rights and he will be held responsible for support.
2007-12-28 02:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. Take him for everything he has including spousal support until your kids are grown. If he wanted you to stay at home with the kids, then he will be obligated to continue that. Don't let him talk you into anything, get a good lawyer and make sure he pays for it.
These kind of bozo's don't change and all they understand is financial consequences. Oh and document, document, document. Keep anything and everything you can to support your claims. Go through his emails, his wallet and anything else private. Give him his divorce but don't make him happy about it.
2007-12-28 02:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states a divorce can be obtained regardless.........the term is 'the marriage is irretrievably broken.'
Get a lawyer. If you have been a housewife the entire time of the marriage........depending on your state........you would not only get child support but alimony as well.
I would however, ask the courts to make sure the monies are sent directly from his employer thru the courts to you. It's sort of like a garnishment.
2007-12-28 02:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by beut_els_guese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him from divorcing you. Why would you want to? You feel it is better to stay dependent on a man who cheats and insults you? For what? For finances? Move on. Take enough money from the bank accounts to live on for the next several months. File for the divorce. File for temporary custody, temporary child support, and temporary spousal support. Go get a job. Learn to support yourself and be self sufficient so that you never have to feel dependent ant on another person again.
2007-12-28 02:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit discussing it with him and hire an attorney that he has no dealings with. Then you need to follow their advice. They will know how to get you spousal support and child support.
Whatever you do, do not leave the marital home. IF you do, he will get it. And do not play the games with him. He is trying to bully you into believing it is your fault so you feel guilty and ask for nothing. This way he gets his freedom, his whore and the money. Set him free (cause he is leaving even if you don't like it ) but keep the money. He should not be rewarded for what he has done.
2007-12-28 02:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step - talk to a lawyer -- vey soon. And a good one at that. I'm not interested in revenge, but he committed himself to you and the family that you two created. If he's going to dump that commitment and the responsibilities he now has, he had SURE better pay your way. He owes you the alimony, child support, and anything else to ensure your and the kids' welfare. A good lawyer will make sure that happens.
2007-12-28 02:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call a divorce lawyer. Let him know what's going on.
2007-12-28 02:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mark B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him divorce you, but get proof of the affair so he can't "run over you". you are entitled to be "kept in the style to which you are accustomed"--so he'll have to pay alimony.
2007-12-28 02:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by s and d e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay married to him?,,,You will receive child support and alimony. Let him go. Value yourself.
2007-12-28 02:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋