I bought my brother 4 bottles of imported larger and a cheese and wine set. He's an alcoholic. Do you think I shouldn't buy him gifts like this? He's 50 and lives about 100 miles from me. We don't get to see each other very much. I don't really know what else he's in to. Drugs and alcohol and sex seems to be his main interests. I don't know of any other hobbies. He's divorced and his 4 kids won't have anything to do with him because of his drinking.
2007-12-28 01:57:44 · 12 answers · asked by purplepeace59 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I believe that knowing that your gift was a bad idea.... why would you give him that??? That is not help... if he has a problems you as a sister should help him to get out of it not to get more into it...
2007-12-28 02:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what would possess you to do such a thing. That would be like someone giving you chocolates when you are trying to lose weight. It is defeating and sending the wrong message. I would actually apologize for what I sent him and tell him that it was not sensitive to his needs. I am guessing he is not in recovery, so you are feeding his addiction. Perhaps go to some Al-Anon meetings so you can learn what to do and what not to do in such situations. It would be helpful to know how you can help him and not make things worse. His kids have the right idea to avoid him if he is dangerous to their mental health...but the better idea would be to get him help.
2007-12-28 02:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 11:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he is an alcoholic, why in hell would you buy him 4 bottles of lager? Next time why don't you get him a week at the Betty Ford Clinic.
2007-12-28 02:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by The Oracle of Delphi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that's called "enabling"....instead of the cheese with his booze, maybe a dime bag and a prostitute would have been better suited.
You don't mention if he's recovering or active in his disease, either way, that was a "pour" choice in my opinion....and that's what this forum is all about
2007-12-28 02:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that might encourage him to pursue other interests might have been a better gift; like a backpack and camping equipment, or jogging shoes, or snowboard, etc.
2007-12-28 02:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops! Next year just get him the cheese!
2007-12-28 02:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself an 'enabler' by giving him the gift that you did.
2007-12-28 02:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
duh?what don't u love ur brother?u should've bin looking for an AA group in his area shame on u
2007-12-28 02:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why ask this question when any intelligent person would know what is right and what is wrong in these circumstances, get real stop wasting your points
2007-12-28 02:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by jack the ripper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋