they only do thing when they need something. she tries to get a attiutude with me for everything,but says nothing to kids breaking rules and running her life she's the mom
2007-12-28 00:14:44 · 15 answers · asked by taj m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Move out!!!
2007-12-28 00:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it more and more today in our home, school system, on the Internet, TV, video games and in the news. I assume the kids are not your biological children. It starts at home with you no matter if there biologically yours or not stand up and be a father/ boyfriend regulate what they watch on TV and what they play on video games set the rules in the house, parental controls for the Internet, get involved with the school system, discipline the kids and teach them that there is repercussions for there actions. If you can't agree on this course of control for the kids together reevaluate your relationship with her and get out of the situation.
2007-12-28 01:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Harley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is ask the mom, why is she not putting her foot down when it come to the kids, because if you say something to the kids, the mom will flip out on you. I would stay out of it, to I have enough and leave.
2007-12-28 00:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation and kids like that only put a strain on the relationship and if she doesn't care enough about you to try and fix it,then maybe its time for you to walk away.
2007-12-28 00:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When are you leaving? She will always attack you for her own inability to disciple the kids. Why? She is afraid of losing their love, so she puts up with their misdeeds and poor attitudes. I've seen this before.
She will continue this until she enters therapy...you will always be the Vitim, because she thinks you won't leave. If I were you 'd leave now to avoid her abuses towards you
2007-12-28 00:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is these are her kids and she is the disciplinarian so whatever she says goes and you are only the boyfriend but i understand your point of view so you have to either deal with it or move on or sit down with her and discuss this
2007-12-28 00:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit and tell her how you feel, even if she dosent like it you have to air your opinons or eventually it will get worse. if you have a good relationship then you should be able to sort it through. if not maybe you should reconsider what you want and how much your prepared to put up with. kids are a night mare! good luck
2007-12-28 00:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by REBECCA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are teenagers let them get on with it and stand back, eventually what goes around comes around and things will get sorted, i have a similar problem
2007-12-28 00:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to be with her?
she's not teaching her kids self respect, or to repsect others.
doesn't sound good to me, taking on the responsibility of someone else's children is hard work and a big committment.
2007-12-28 00:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by juology 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is the same way. You got to have her realise that its just going to get worse as they get older. she has to do something now. maybe a family councelor or something of that nature.
2007-12-28 00:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now! Seriously, run as fast as you can. Get off here and go pack your bags!!!
Youre still here?????
2007-12-28 00:18:06 · answer #11 · answered by G G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋