My Dad died on December the 20th 1982 and it still does take the edge off it for me
2007-12-28 00:14:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
My mom died in October 2005 ..during hurricane Wilma I live in FL and it was horrible her funeral was in the dark.... and her burial had to be postponed, because the ground could not be dug, because there was no gas to put it in the tractors, and there was not water for the grounds at the cemetery...It was a mess and worst time of my life ....in 2006/2007 whenever I heard of a bad storm coming I would get extremely paranoid and crazy.. because she died right before the holidays I dreaded that too....But by God's grace and giving my strength I won't get so nervous in 2008 and my holidays were better this year ....Its all in how you take control over a bad situation and finding some type of peace and letting go bad memories and focus on how that person enjoyed the season they would not want you missing out on such a beautiful time of the year
2007-12-28 00:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by meka33311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does seem more poignant if somebody dies at Christmas. My mother died on Boxing Day 2005 and we will always raise a glass to her memory, but I certainly wouldn't say it taints the day. In fact we usually end up having a laugh about various family incidents! My father died many years ago, also in December, quite significant because he actually died on his birthday. For me the anniversaries just prompt good memories of them as people.
2007-12-28 01:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are going to think of them around this time of year it's natural. However, you make the choice to move on with your life and I am sure that is what he would want you to do. My family had a special person die around Christmas but I'm okay with it. It's apart of life.
Include them in the holiday season. Light a candle for them on the 20th....include them in a family trivia game at Christmas or make their special Christmas dish. However the season is much more then just this event that occured.
2007-12-28 01:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will always remember when a loved one dies and it can affect Christmas for u, no matter how long the loved one has been gone it was your father and it isn't easily forgotten. just treasure the time u had with him, know that all people don;'t have such fond memories of their fathers. just be thankful u had a good one. u will always cherish his memory and Miss him, and Christmas time will always be a hard time. this is my first Christmas without dad, i find myself waking in the middle of the night thinking i want to call dad and tell him something. i will always miss him forever, but we all have to die, its part of the plan as hard as it is to accept. instead focus on someone less fortunate than u at Christmas time, it will bring u joy.
2007-12-28 00:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if u let it. Remember all the good times and how much he loved u. He wouldnt want u 2 be upset. Christmas should be a joyful time, not an upsetting one. Remember u will see him agen some day.
2007-12-28 00:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that it does, because naturally every time Christmas comes around, you can't help but think of your lost loved one. It happens to many many people. You just have to remember the good times you had with them during Christmas's they were with you, rather than dwell on the fact they just happened to pass away at Christmas time.
2007-12-28 00:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Rational 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousins husband died last week,it's sad to lose anybody but to lose them at this time of the year is even worse,just imagine all the cards with their names & all the decorations up,then he's gone. & yes you are right his death will be a reminder every year & Christmas won't be the same again,I'm sorry about your dad aswell,yes it gets easier but the memories last for ever.I wish you all the best for 2008.x
2007-12-28 00:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by kimble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine lost her Mother around the holidays (between Thanksgiving and Xmas), about 27 years ago but it's something she'll remember forever. It doesn't make the holidays blue (as I would imagine it did initially) but it does keep them from being as bright/happy as they might be if it weren't for the memory of losing someone she loved dearly, during this time of year.
2007-12-28 00:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen a lot of people that have lost a loved one around Christmas, and it always seems to effect them. I guess that I would have to answers your question with a yes.
2007-12-28 00:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He wouldn't want it to so you have to set aside a little time to be sad for him but then make an affort to remember the happier times and concentrate on now.
It's hard but it's the only way.
2007-12-28 00:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Harry O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋