5 days ago i gave birth to my baby daughter, and i was aged 13 (i got pregnant through rape) and i decided yesterday id like to introduce her to the family and because i hadnt been out of the house since i brought kayleigh home, i thought id walk her to my nans house, and the amount of people giving me dirty looks and pointing and whispering was unbelievable!
its really upsetting, ive always been good, looked after my appearance, tried hard at my education, and i still will, but now i have a pram to push around with me, people have decided theyre going to hate me, half of them dont even know she is mine! i could be babysitting!
i dont resent kayleigh-jade, she is the most precious thing, but im just coming to ask that when you see a 13 year old girl walking down the street with a pram, please think before you judge her, it breaks my heart to be snubbed because i have a child. though, no matter what anyone thinks, i will love my daughter more than anyone, shes my priority.
Thanks.x
2007-12-26 22:32:04 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hug hug hug poor thing
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and the amount of people giving me dirty looks and pointing and whispering was unbelievable!
its really upsetting, to be snubbed because i have a child
this is why I hate the relgious and the anti abvortion pro lifers ..
these are the ones saying dont abort then this is how they treat people like you who get pregnant at your age even if as a reult of rape.
These people see females as walking gestation machines with no human rights or needs or feelings, Their relgious base generall has no anti rape laws.
But all rules agisnt feles in control of their lives and fertility.
Its called puritanisim, going on about morals, piousness, purityt, no sex before a marriage in which you are controlled and dominated much like how the rapist dominated you...
to them rape is not that bad but should you if older choose partners and use sexaulity to get power and flirt or be a hooker or pole dancer ... no that is a female in contol and they dont like that...
Hence these people hating contrception, sex ed, and abortion.
Much as you may love your kid now I fear it will always remind you of your rape and how much its about to cost you of your teenage hood and what you will mis out out exagerating the the hurt caused by the rape and the kid will be upset to know where it came from...
it hurts me to see peopel like you so hurt and upset which is why I hate all these family, moral and relgious values.
If I were you abandon any connection with the church and get into paganisism and wicca if you want any spirtutality in your life... thse people would not be judgemental... sex to them is a good thing inself.
hug hug hug
2007-12-27 00:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm glad you are being mature about this. I make a point of not judging teen mothers. A friend of mine had a baby at 15. She had a girl and she was the best thing that ever happened to her. She completely changed her life around. Before she was lazy and immature. Now, she is a loving, caring mother to her daughter. She takes care of herself and her child. She is a much better person.
Im sure you will be a wonderful mother.
Good luck with your baby girl Kayleigh. Have fun. Hold your head up high. Lucy. x
2007-12-26 23:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Goosey Lucy. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bless you unfortunately this is the way of the world. Forget what others think, at the end of the day you love your baby and you sound like you have a sensible head on your shoulders and are looking after the baby well. F*** everyone else as long as you and your daughter are happy.
People are always quick to judge when they dont know all the facts!! At least hopefully you wont make the same mistake
2007-12-27 09:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by jodee1kenobi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen! Keep your head up. It is very sad that you got raped, your daughter will love you forever for keeping her. I wish you all the best. Don't let what people think weigh down on you too much or you will lose the motivation to do great things with your life. You are so young and have so much opportunity ahead of you. By the time you are ready to go to college your daughter will already be in elementary school. Your life is not over.
2007-12-26 22:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Wesley H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that i seriously admire your strength and character. I admire you after all hat you have been through that you havent cracked yet, but now you have a beautiful baby girl in the world, all the sad people who judge you dont matter, anyone who knows you knows the truth and the people who judge you? there is nothing you can do about it - its just human nature, iff you need someone to chat to, you can email me, i thought i was pregant when i was 14 and i have to say im ashamed of myself for getting worked up the way i did when something like this has happened to you! god bless xxx
2007-12-29 15:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let people around you steal the joy of having your beautiful daughter! You are doing an amazing job, and they know nothing of it. Those who know you, I'm sure, can only be full of admiration for you.
It's still very early days, so please remember to take it easy and look after yourself as well as your little one. Lots of new mums feel a little down during the first week (baby blues!). Why not cuddle up with your mum and tell her how you feel? XX
2007-12-27 10:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by anchan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww sweetie, its good that your being really strong in a time like this becuase many girls your age wouldnt have the same thoughts as you do in a situation like this, well im not the type to judge so if i ever saw a young girl with a baby its not my business to know whats the story behind it. Anyway, its not like you purposly had sex and got a baby, you got raped and only a idot would judge you especally if they knew that.
continue being strong, be proud that you survived, and for those who look at you in a weird way look at them back with confidence.. its non of there conern what really happend .. because if they really did know what happend they would feel ashamed of what they previously thought
good luck hun!
2007-12-27 05:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Freaxxx.x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now that's the spirit.you really do seem like a very fine young lady.I'm very impressed.that's right.don't give up just because some fraudy shameless guy raped you.yes keep up the spirit.hang on to your dreams.never give up.keep getting a good education and in future show the society what you are capable off by growing up into an extremely independent and successful person.after that those same people who underestimate you now will respect you for your unbeatable personality and the freak who got you pregnant will suffer for sure.god will give him his punishment.but have you charged a case against him yet?if you haven't go on and do it.I'm really very very very m\impressed.go for it and good luck and congrats for you beautiful baby girl.and as my personal gift take a star.
2007-12-27 01:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by mastermind 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) I'm sorry to hear about hte rape. Put it behind u and get on with life. As u say, ur daughter is priority. Look after her well.
People by nature are cruel. Ignore them. Its going to be difficult but it makes u stronger. Life is beautiful, life it well and teach ur daughter to be strong too. U have a whole lifetime ahead of u.
Best of luck honey.
2008-01-03 17:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by srk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry, you have gone through enougth with out people treating you that way, it takes a brave person to come out of the tunnel in which you have gone through.You have a beautiful little girl, and that likr you said is your number one prioty.You have had to grow up more quickly than other girls your age.So people are always going to be ignorent, even alough they do not know you.So they are not worth your sadness, You are a great mum and i wish you alll the best of luck for they future of you and your little girl.But please remember if you are struggeling, there is plenty of people who can help you. xx
2007-12-26 23:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by jo2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋