i want to know who i am, i am quiet......?

Question

i do things alone,doesn't really like team work at times,people don,t really care about me,i am a student still working to make a living,i find it hard to play,i read alone,walk alone,sometimes depressed cause i am not sociable,and i feel sad when i see friends playing together.who am i and is this habit good or not, if not what can i do

Answer 1

Doing something in excess is never a good thing, i understand where you are coming from i to am a very solitary person, but i always try and find the time to go out and converse with people. What you need to do is overcome your 'shy' nature even if just a little and find people who you share common interests with. As for finding yourself, meditation can be very helpful in discovering the you on the inside and helping yourself open up to the people and environment around you.

Answer 2

You are someone making their way on their own path. There could be elements of low self-esteem here. I had low self-esteem for quite some time. I learned that I had to find what inspires me and what brings me joy. The feelings that we feed are the ones that rule the day.

I was in a wheelchair until I was 20 and dealt with tons of low self-esteem. I had these same characteristics. I learned a great quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that really helped me at times. It says "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Just stop agreeing with whatever makes you feel down or any of the self-talk that may not serve you. It all comes from within.

There is a story about how positive and negative feelings can have a huge effect on how we feel about ourselves. Those feelings are in competition with each other and you decide which one prevails.

I learned it like this. There is a native elder telling the young warriors how to make progress and feel good about themselves and be happy in life. He tells them, "I have two dogs, a black one and a white one, and they fight all the time." A warrior asks him, "Which one wins?" The elder tells him "Whichever one I feed."

So, what feelings are you feeding yourself? Are you feeding the unproductive ones?

Keep searching. You'll get there and you'll rise above. The greatest thing I've ever done are the courses in the link below. My rocket has been firing ever since, and that was 7 years ago.

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Paul

Answer 3

you can learn to be more sociable if u want to, it may take a bit of extra effort if you are not naturally that way. Depends how badly you want to change as to whether or not you will. If you are looking for a label then you are an 'introvert'. Or you can just learn to accept who you are and work with that. Find other qualities you have and work wih those. Here is a an interesting website about some famous introverts you might have heard of....

Answer 4

some people are introverted and some people are extroverted, it's their personality and how they were made by God and it's ok for y ou to be how you are. You don't have to be like anyone else.

I know people that think I should do things this way or that way, and my reply "that would be great if I was you, but I'm not.."

each person is unique, and it's ok to learn to be ok with yourself how you are.
you can't compare yourself with anyone else besides yourself.

Answer 5

Its ok I'm in the same situation. Because some sillys made fun of my looks and made me loose my self-esteem. Just be yourself be friendly and approchable look like YOU WANT TO BE TALKED TO. GOOD LUCK!:)

Answer 6

only you can really determine who you are. if you don't like something about yourself, work to change it. i'm generally pretty quiet too but that's because i just don't say things unless i really have something to say. i'm fine with that...

Answer 7

No one can say wether it is good or bad. if you are unhappy with that situation..then yes it is bad. But there is nothing wrong wiothh enjoying your own company.

Answer 8

You're fantastic :) xx