Are our happyness depends on others or on any objects or on us only ?

Question

If our hapyness depends on others,we can never be happy,then key is in their hand...Secondly you can not make others happy,..ask,them whom you had made happy..are they happy?....Some says God can make them happy by giving food n shelter..Many people are having all,..but still they are not happy..You must have seen many are living like king,they hv all..welth,helth..all possible things,.but still they are not happy...

Answer 1

its all within ourselves. if we wanna b happy we can , if v don't we wont.
It jus depend how we take things in life.

Answer 2

A child is born... he is continuously helpless. The whole childhood is a long helplessness. He has to depend for each and every thing, small things, on others -- the mother for food, for clothing, for a bath. If he is feeling cold then he has to cry... somebody has to bring a blanket. He cannot do anything -- so he learns that his happiness depends on others.

And it is natural to feel that way too, because whenever he is alone he is unhappy. If he has made his clothes wet, then he is lying there in wet clothes and he cannot do anything. If a small pebble is next to his skin, he cannot even remove it. And for a small child, a small pebble feels like a hillock. His body and his skin is so delicate, so he suffers. He cannot do anything, he cannot even move, so he learns that his happiness depends on others. When they are there he is happy. When he feels he is alone he becomes panicky. And that is natural -- a child is helpless.

The childhood goes but the conditioning remains. One day or other, one has to drop that conditioning. Now you are a grown-up; now you are no more a child. You can be on your own... now you can be happy alone. Just the conditioning has to be dropped. And this is the beauty of it -- once you start being happy and alone, you become capable of relationship. Before that you are not capable of a relationship, because how can a person who cannot be happy alone, be happy in relationship? In the first place, happiness does not exist in him.

Your being alone, and your being with your wife or your husband or friends are two things, contradictory, but you are in both. If you are integrated, you will be happy alone. If you are integrated, you will be happy with others. Happiness will be your quality. Happiness doesn't depend on being alone or with others. If it does depend, there will be problems.
If you feel when you are alone you are happy and your happiness depends on being alone, then there will be difficulty. Then aloneness is a must. Then, when with others, you will feel unhappy and you will start thinking how to make these two opposites meet. The problem arises because you are dependent on your loneliness for your happiness. Don't be dependent.

Be happy when alone. Let happiness be your quality. And when you move from aloneness into involvement, into communication, relationship, carry that quality of happiness which was in loneliness -- carry that.

In the beginning it will be difficult, because you will almost always forget. It will be difficult because of forgetfulness, because of not being constantly aware, but by and by you can carry the quality. When living with somebody, you can still be as alone as you were in your loneliness. You remain an integrated soul. While not doing anything, you feel happy, at ease. This at-easeness should become a quality of you, not of inactivity.

Carry this quality in activity and there will be no problem. In the beginning there is going to be difficulty, but the point is to remember that your happiness, your bliss, your ecstasy, should not be dependent on any condition without. If it is, then there is contradiction because it will be dependent. People feel that they are happy when they are with their friends; then when they are alone they are bored, miserable, somebody is needed.

These people are extroverts. The other type is the introvert. Whenever he is alone, he feels happy; whenever he moves with someone, unhappiness enters. Both are in the bondage of their type. Type is a bondage. You should be free of the type. You should neither be extrovert, nor introvert, but both. Then you are free of the type.

So what is to be done? Never get fixed with a situation; always move to the opposite and carry the quality with you. Move as much as possible from one opposite to another and carry the quality. Soon you will become aware that the quality can be carried anywhere. Then you cannot be sent to hell, because even if you are sent you will carry your happiness there. Then you will never be afraid.

Religious people are afraid of hell, and they seek and hanker for heaven. These people are not religious at all, because heaven and hell are both conditions without -- they are not your own qualities. These are the worldly people. That's what worldly people are doing. They say: If this condition is fulfilled, then I will be happy. So happiness depends on the condition. If a palace is there then I will be happy; so much money in the bank balance, then I will be happy; such a beautiful wife, then I will be happy, or such a good, loving husband, then I will be happy. You are happy only when something is fulfilled outside, and you say: If this is not fulfilled, I am unhappy.

This is what an unreligious man is. And the so-called religious men also go on seeking heaven, avoiding hell. They are doing the same!

Answer 3

More within ourselves than from external objects or people, because even the best the other might give, if our mind is prejudiced or interpreted negatively,we miss out on happiness.On the other hand, even in the worst we see some positive when we are favourably disposed! Hence, essentially, being happy or not depends on us.

Answer 4

HAPPINESS DEPENDS ON HOW WE FACE EACH SITUATION. Rather happiness is gaines by giving happiness to others. U will notice that , when u make someone happy... u will feel genuinely happy, and remember it..It does not depend on any object or thing or urself, but what u do.
U may also gain happiness by limiting ur wants and desires, when u do not have anything to desire, u will be satisfied and so happy!

Answer 5

My happiness depends entirely on sources outside of me. The air I breath, the planet I live on, thank God this is all there. I am depend ant on food to survive here on earth and I need the material to build a shelter or keep me warm. To be able to LOVE I need others, or a higher being outside of my little ego, so also in this I am depend ant on something outside of myself.
So my happiness depends on God I would say and all his gifts he bestowed me to use or experience.

Answer 6

Of course, happiness is basically a product from within yourself. But, it always experienced in relation with others. Man cannot remain as an island, whether in sorrow or happiness.

Answer 7

Happiness is the perception of an individual. The man who will not think of next movement is the happiest person. Example: Labourer on a street works hard and earns money. He spends it and sleeps on hard floor without thinking for the next movement.

Answer 8

Ultimately happiness depends on yourself but outside influences including other people also play their part in your happiness.

Answer 9

Happiness is always there! Not depending on anyone, anything! Most of us do not recognise happiness, do not realise that happiness is with us all the time!

Answer 10

Lets say you won the lottery (multi-million) but didn't find out for a week after the drawing. Would your happiness increase for no apparent reason that week? or would your happiness increase with the knowledge? It all in our perceptions of how we process things. (Internal)

Answer 11

Happiness depends on others and as well as on us. Sometime you want to be happy but circumstances around you not allow this or sometime others want to keep you happy but you don't want, so yours and others, boths happiness matter.